unfortunately no one is in a position to make decisions for you.I will be extremely blunt..but not that i dont care.
...why are you asking for help if you have decided to go back home?
.....if your hubby is a member here,are you trying to scare him,get sympathy or whats with this 4 month thinking story?
.....so you think the solution is to kill an innocent being/child coz of the fathers shortcoming ?
.....please have some coffee and go back to your right thinking?
.....all the same ,the decision(S) is/are yours,and so are the consequences ;because they will be more than the decisions for sure!!!

Another copy paste

Men are Hard to please
If he calls you and your phone is off, he thinks you’re cheating….then he sends an sms saying “don’t tell me the battery story coz I know that line”


If u TREAT him nicely, he says u are TOO IN LOVE, moving too fast;
If u Don't, he says u are PROUD .

If u DRESS NICELY, he says u are trying to LURE other men;
If u DONT?, he says u are RURAL.

If u ARGUE with him, he says u are STUBBORN, too manly;
If u keep QUIET, he says u have no BRAINS, a walkover

If u are SMARTER than him, you’re a SHOW-OFF;
If he's SMARTER than u, he is GREAT.

If u don't LOVE him, he tries to POSSESS u;
If u LOVE him, He takes you FOR GRANTED. (very true huh?)

If u don't MAKE LOVE to him, he says u DONT? LOVE him;
If u DO, he says u are CHEAP.

If u tell him your PROBLEMS, he says u are TROUBLE;
If u DONT?, he says u don't TRUST him.

If u SCOLD him, u are treating him like a CHILD;
If he SCOLDS u, it’s because he CARES for u.

If u BREAK your promise, u cannot be TRUSTED;
If he BREAKS his, it is circumstances beyond his CONTROL.

If u SMOKE, u are a BAD girl;
If he SMOKES, he is a GENTLEMAN.

If u do WELL in your career, it's LUCK ;
If he does WELL, it’s definitely BRAINS.

If u HURT him, u are CRUEL;
If he HURTS you, you are too SENSITIVE !!



HOW ARE WE SUPPOSED TO GET IT RIGHT????????

Hi gift,

Pole for the predicament. I would advice you not to follow whatever much know is telling you. Your husband is a natural polygamist. Do not leave your home because he is dogging you, there is no perfect man. Utamwacha uende kwa mwingine, mwingine akudog, umwache uende kwa another one. Just talk to him, or give him space, it may even be mid life crisis. Is the lady he is seeing younger than you, is she his first love? if the answer is yes then it may be mid life crisis. Dont make a mistake of leaving your house for another woman.

Again know than men sometimes feel like moving out especially when their wives are pregnant. I dont really know why,

Gift u need to try & see a marriage counselor if that doesn't work then hit the road, do not attempt to solve this problem alone.

@Atiriri, Leaving a husband because he is dogging is a ground for ending a marriage. Unless he has only done it once. But this dude has done it 3 times WTF!!!!!! Men are indeed DOGS!!!!
I have a brother who is like that. He just has a problem with staying faithful In fact he says that he does not mind if his girl also sleeps around as long as she doesn't make it obvious and hides it kabisa. Its just sick!!!!!
Anyway back to gift, if you stay with this dude will you be happy??? If you leave him will you be happy. Your kids need to see you happy because your mood affects them too and children are very perceptive. They need their parents to get along whether they are together or not Do what will make you happy and give you peace of mind because living with stress will kill you mapema. Have you ever seen people who look 80 and yet when you ask them their age you will be shocked at how young they are!!!! You need peace of mind and a good environment to raise your kids.
BTW this dude will never stop cheating on you.
Your child is a blessing do not even put her in all this. You can raise a baby perfectly with or without a man. Many have done it and many are continuing to do so.
I got pregnant when i was in my final year in campus. My boyfriend had a crappy job and i was sure that i did not want to have a baby then. I seriously wanted to get rid of it. Thank God i did not. Now everything is just perfect

Anyway, moral of the story. When it comes to babies, do not let your present situation make you think twice about a pregnancy because everything always works out. It always does. Ask all those who had predicaments when they got pregnant and they will tell you. Things always works out.

Only you, knows what is best for you. And put the children first and think of your happiness.