westkate wrote:looks like one victim of this is fro wazua . i will expose the names very soon so that everyone will be able to know all the goons taking peoples hubbies . if you are a lady lets fight this hell ones and for ever.
those who are calling me joseph kahunyuro any name is useful in the social world
soon the time i get a solution to this i will ask the damin to edit my full names as i will furnish her or her with my id
keep helping and lets this discussion be healthy
I was really hoping you are a man, I want to believe so, in which case you are really hurting deeply and hence the serious murder thoughts you are experiencing. See how any mpangos are you going to kill? probably the other party has been lied to and the spouse fronts himself/herself as a single party.
But since you claim to be a lady, let me address your issue then as though you were one.
westkate wrote:i will expose the names very soon so that everyone will be able to know all the goons taking peoples hubbies . if you are a lady lets fight this hell ones and for ever.
I highlight the above and would love some clarity. These husbands of yours, they do not have brains of their own? wanachukuliwa kama mzigo, like if I left my handbag unattended I can easily find it missing? Is this how your husband found himself chatting away with some hot mama out there?
You are ignoring the obvious, guy doesn't give a hoot really, he loves himself more than he does you, he is choosing whatever makes him happy and for now, landing that mama seems to be on his mind, you know it but would rather blame the other woman, the easier target right? because she is the one that walked you down the aisle and made vows that he cannot keep? Or perhaps paid dowry for you or whispered some sweet nothings just to get you to lower your panties and ended up pregnant and he was forced to take responsibility by marrying you or since he did not want to be a deadbeat he asked you to move in, or he has no idea how he ended up married.
That other woman owes you zero, and she could be muslim for all I care and her religion allows her to be the fourth wife.
Since you already broke relationship rule 1- DO NOT TOUCH YOUR SPOUSE'S PHONE, If you hadn't I would've spelled out the consequences for you, which happen to be:
1.Seek and you will find, once you find you have two options.
-Confront the guy and realize you cannot leave him and hence there is very little you are going to do about it and he continues with his games with ease since he doesn't have to deal with the guilt and fear of you finding out.
-Leave the matapaka, but you already said you are not going to leave him because you love him (and here I was thinking women stay in bad relationships because they do not have options yet you have a stable job and wont leave)
2. Seek and find and zip your mouth, continue warming his food, run his bath act as though nothing is wrong, the knowledge you have can be used at a future date, like when he finally decides to marry her and divorce you and you need leverage in divorce court.
3.Confront him, involve your pastor, parents and pray he changes, hopefully tables wont turn on you, him claiming you are nagging, you are not clean, you do not know how to cook soft chapatis, you are not as good in bed, bla bla...and right then your self esteem will be deflated and the world that you are worried what they will think if say you left him will know you don't have a perfect marriage, no one does really, vumilia tu.
Last but not least, you effing do not own that guy, so don't act like you do. His life or the mpango's life doesn't belong to you. You can only control your actions and how you react to the actions of others. Love yourself, be happy.