I do not subscribe to this notion that since some big families have squandered their wealth we should all give up on our children/grandchildren
Do your best in this regard. Show them how to make it like you did and then leave them to do their thing after you're gone.
You cannot just give up just because the Karumes and Kirimas have inheritance caused family feuds.
Oooh and of course live well, you too deserve to enjoy like they will enjoy when you're gone
Giving up on your kids because you don;t know how they'll turn out to be is like giving up on investment because you're not assured it will yield a return
Prov 13
Quote: A good man leaveth an inheritance to his children's children