Bigchick wrote:@Alma you have not told us everything.What did she find on the phone?We are not that crazy to destroy a phone just coz you have saved some Suzzane on it.She must have come across some disturbing messages like..."thanking you for the wonderful landing last thursday night,or the babies fees is not yet paid etc"
Anyhow do not worry it shall come to pass.Nobody wants to loose a relationship more so if you guys have had a good time together.But trust is gone and will take time to rebuild.Secondly,that sharing of rent will work against you.PAY RENT ALONE(read it using Prof Bamba's accent).LET HER DEAL WITH OTHER ISSUES...,ELEC,WATER...."
Finally you can also look for a minutest evidence of a guy who may have shown some passing interest in her (ofcourse there must be one or several ,don't think you are the only one who admires her)and exergerrate the story and turn the heat on her.....
Good luck.
Two wrongs dont make it right, it might feel like you are even but then healing will not take place and the chance of rebuilding trust will be out of the window, If you are sorry, say it and act it.
Women know how hard it is to find a man who provides, protects and professes their love for the woman. So if you failed in one of this areas, use the other two to get her back.
Broken families are not easy on anyone either way.
Threatening to kick out your wife and kids is a big mistake, should she come back, she will be plotting on how to leave you for good, this time with her having the upper hand.