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Rank: Elder Joined: 10/23/2008 Posts: 3,966
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Lack of communication is the biggest cause of divorce, separation in Kenya. Now you know. Luck is when Preparation meets Opportunity. ~ Lucius Annaeus Seneca
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 6/23/2014 Posts: 1,652
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mwanafunzi wrote:Sk community, I have been lurking in the shadows and I must admit I value the information in this forum. Now a friend has a not so unique problem and I thought it would be good to ask maybe some of you might have been in the same predicament at some point in your marriage/ courtship.
So my friend has problems with the fiancé. They’ve been together for close to three years now and plans are in full gear to formalize the union. They’ve been staying together(come we stay) for over a year now. The past six months have been tough, the lady developed the lowest libido ever, no medical problem but just the kawaida am tired, kichwa inauma, ooh crumps, ooh it’s too hot open the windows and all manner of excuses. I know what you are thinking but the lady is faithfull and my friend has full confidence in her. The guy on his part has never gone outside, he loves the lady but is a worried man. He has tried everything in the book, from the romantics inuendos, flirty chats the whole day in preparation for a wholesome evening only to end up a frustrated disappointed man. My friend is a worried man, What if the lady maintains status quo, what if he ends up a sad cheating man. Wazuans please saidia.
Tell her to send me an email hapa wamunyotas@gmail.com. Hutia Mundu!!
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Rank: Elder Joined: 5/1/2010 Posts: 3,024 Location: Hapa
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Wamunyota wrote:Kwani impunity alikupatia ile simu yake?   I bought an S6 from @mawinder Float like a butterfly, sting like a bee. - Muhammad Ali🐝
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Rank: Elder Joined: 7/1/2011 Posts: 8,804 Location: Nairobi
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I doubt whether there's something like 'lack of communication'. Humans are always communicating whether they agree or not.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 1/17/2013 Posts: 4,693 Location: Earth
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wazuans favorite topic. 1. She could be expecting 2. Family planning methods 3. Love is lost 4. She met swenani and wamunyota 5. She's born again now abstaining as they plan the wedding 6. Familiarity breeds contempt. 7. She joined the LGBT community. 8. Mombasa haina raha. Terrorism tu.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 10/3/2008 Posts: 4,057 Location: Gwitu
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tycho wrote:I doubt whether there's something like 'lack of communication'. Humans are always communicating whether they agree or not. I didn't get you! Why do we then often request for clarification like am doing now? Truth forever on the scaffold
Wrong forever on the throne
(James Russell Rowell)
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Rank: Elder Joined: 7/22/2009 Posts: 7,589
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Hapa iko shida kubwa sana!!! To women (Wachana na K-Street material!) sex is not a physical thing. It is emotional and she has to connect with you at another level before it becomes physical. This man is losing this lady. Once you lose the lady on the emotional level, you are done!!! And I am talking about real ladies. Not viruka njia! Let them talk it out. If the lady is honest with the jamaa, then they have a chance though sometimes the connection cannot be reestablished. Never count on making a good sale. Have the purchase price be so attractive that even a mediocre sale gives good returns.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 3/2/2009 Posts: 26,330 Location: Masada
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kysse wrote: wazuans favorite topic. 1. She could be expecting 2. Family planning methods 3. Love is lost 4. She met swenani and wamunyota 5. She's born again now abstaining as they plan the wedding6. Familiarity breeds contempt. 7. She joined the LGBT community. 8. Mombasa haina raha. Terrorism tu. Portfolio: Sold
You know you've made it when you get a parking space for your yatcht.
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Rank: User Joined: 8/15/2013 Posts: 13,237 Location: Vacuum
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kysse wrote: wazuans favorite topic. 1. She could be expecting 2. Family planning methods 3. Love is lost 4. She met swenani and wamunyota 5. She's born again now abstaining as they plan the wedding 6. Familiarity breeds contempt. 7. She joined the LGBT community. 8. Mombasa haina raha. Terrorism tu. what are you smoking? Dried semen? If Obiero did it, Who Am I?
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Rank: Elder Joined: 7/1/2011 Posts: 8,804 Location: Nairobi
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kaka2za wrote:tycho wrote:I doubt whether there's something like 'lack of communication'. Humans are always communicating whether they agree or not. I didn't get you! Why do we then often request for clarification like am doing now? We normally ask for clarification because we want to resolve some conflict. And conflict resolution is part of communication as much as conflict.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 3/2/2009 Posts: 26,330 Location: Masada
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McReggae wrote:Why are they eating each other before the formalize their union? See the pot advising the kettle not to be eaten by the mug! Portfolio: Sold
You know you've made it when you get a parking space for your yatcht.
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 7/5/2010 Posts: 2,061 Location: Nairobi
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mwanafunzi wrote:Sk community, I have been lurking in the shadows and I must admit I value the information in this forum. Now a friend has a not so unique problem and I thought it would be good to ask maybe some of you might have been in the same predicament at some point in your marriage/ courtship.
So my friend has problems with the fiancé. They’ve been together for close to three years now and plans are in full gear to formalize the union. They’ve been staying together(come we stay) for over a year now. The past six months have been tough, the lady developed the lowest libido ever, no medical problem but just the kawaida am tired, kichwa inauma, ooh crumps, ooh it’s too hot open the windows and all manner of excuses. I know what you are thinking but the lady is faithfull and my friend has full confidence in her. The guy on his part has never gone outside, he loves the lady but is a worried man. He has tried everything in the book, from the romantics inuendos, flirty chats the whole day in preparation for a wholesome evening only to end up a frustrated disappointed man. My friend is a worried man, What if the lady maintains status quo, what if he ends up a sad cheating man. Wazuans please saidia.
I think some ladies, most ladies even will keep a dude well sexed until they are sure they have boxed him in. It is the price chics pay to domesticate a chap who is of marriage material. There is a sense of satisfaction and comfort that comes with being laid regularly. Then a dude commits and reversing becomes difficult, especially when protocols and family have been initiated. This is when the rules check in, no more rampant sex, being consigned to the doghouse is frequent. Sadly for you, (or your friend ), she has brought the meanness out really early. Most women (based on men's complaints) give the dudes some few years of enjoying the fruits after the wedding before the kids arrive or the banality of life starts sucking the joy slowly out of the union. Being friends as well as lovers really helps in situations like these cause when you are friends then communication is easier. But here it appears she just went cold turkey, too confident the man is roped in. Like someone else said I would advocate for open, and candid communication, but lacking that, the dude must be ready to end this relationship and demonstrate this willingness with deadly seriousness. May be it is a blessing in disguise, she is showing her colors early. Can you imagine a long stretch of a future where a guy is forced to grovel for sex and keeps getting denied, walking around with an acute case of blue balls?
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 6/23/2014 Posts: 1,652
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Impunity wrote:kysse wrote: wazuans favorite topic. 1. She could be expecting 2. Family planning methods 3. Love is lost 4. She met swenani and wamunyota 5. She's born again now abstaining as they plan the wedding6. Familiarity breeds contempt. 7. She joined the LGBT community. 8. Mombasa haina raha. Terrorism tu. Hutia Mundu!!
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Rank: Elder Joined: 7/22/2009 Posts: 7,589
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My Asian friend tells me your friend should take the fiancee to an Indian restaurant!!! The biggest challenge will be convincing her to finish the food (Chili galore) but once they get home... washa niwashie hapo!!! Never count on making a good sale. Have the purchase price be so attractive that even a mediocre sale gives good returns.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 3/2/2009 Posts: 26,330 Location: Masada
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Rank: Elder Joined: 3/2/2009 Posts: 26,330 Location: Masada
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quicksand wrote:mwanafunzi wrote:Sk community, I have been lurking in the shadows and I must admit I value the information in this forum. Now a friend has a not so unique problem and I thought it would be good to ask maybe some of you might have been in the same predicament at some point in your marriage/ courtship.
So my friend has problems with the fiancé. They’ve been together for close to three years now and plans are in full gear to formalize the union. They’ve been staying together(come we stay) for over a year now. The past six months have been tough, the lady developed the lowest libido ever, no medical problem but just the kawaida am tired, kichwa inauma, ooh crumps, ooh it’s too hot open the windows and all manner of excuses. I know what you are thinking but the lady is faithfull and my friend has full confidence in her. The guy on his part has never gone outside, he loves the lady but is a worried man. He has tried everything in the book, from the romantics inuendos, flirty chats the whole day in preparation for a wholesome evening only to end up a frustrated disappointed man. My friend is a worried man, What if the lady maintains status quo, what if he ends up a sad cheating man. Wazuans please saidia.
I think some ladies, most ladies even will keep a dude well sexed until they are sure they have boxed him in. It is the price chics pay to domesticate a chap who is of marriage material. There is a sense of satisfaction and comfort that comes with being laid regularly. Then a dude commits and reversing becomes difficult, especially when protocols and family have been initiated. This is when the rules check in, no more rampant sex, being consigned to the doghouse is frequent. Sadly for you, (or your friend ), she has brought the meanness out really early. Most women (based on men's complaints) give the dudes some few years of enjoying the fruits after the wedding before the kids arrive or the banality of life starts sucking the joy slowly out of the union. Being friends as well as lovers really helps in situations like these cause when you are friends then communication is easier. But here it appears she just went cold turkey, too confident the man is roped in. Like someone else said I would advocate for open, and candid communication, but lacking that, the dude must be ready to end this relationship and demonstrate this willingness with deadly seriousness. May be it is a blessing in disguise, she is showing her colors early. Can you imagine a long stretch of a future where a guy is forced to grovel for sex and keeps getting denied, walking around with an acute case of blue balls? And the balls become so brittle that a little tap while walking the streets of Nairobi will break them. Portfolio: Sold
You know you've made it when you get a parking space for your yatcht.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 8/4/2008 Posts: 2,849 Location: Rupi
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Wazua madness at its best. They are disconnected emotionally. And it starts with little things like letting out loud smelly farts in her presence (after all she is the wife), asking her for money - soo mbili hivi (men should provide) bad table manners, being clumsy not fixing that broken tap, leaving the lady to deal with the electrician (not being man enough)etc...... All these things put together..... she gets fed up and disconnects emotionally. He should talk to her and find out what she likes/dislikes about him and address the matters raised acccordingly. He should not trivialize whatever the lady brings up Lord, thank you!
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Rank: Elder Joined: 5/21/2013 Posts: 2,841 Location: Here
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Impunity wrote:quicksand wrote:mwanafunzi wrote:Sk community, I have been lurking in the shadows and I must admit I value the information in this forum. Now a friend has a not so unique problem and I thought it would be good to ask maybe some of you might have been in the same predicament at some point in your marriage/ courtship.
So my friend has problems with the fiancé. They’ve been together for close to three years now and plans are in full gear to formalize the union. They’ve been staying together(come we stay) for over a year now. The past six months have been tough, the lady developed the lowest libido ever, no medical problem but just the kawaida am tired, kichwa inauma, ooh crumps, ooh it’s too hot open the windows and all manner of excuses. I know what you are thinking but the lady is faithfull and my friend has full confidence in her. The guy on his part has never gone outside, he loves the lady but is a worried man. He has tried everything in the book, from the romantics inuendos, flirty chats the whole day in preparation for a wholesome evening only to end up a frustrated disappointed man. My friend is a worried man, What if the lady maintains status quo, what if he ends up a sad cheating man. Wazuans please saidia.
I think some ladies, most ladies even will keep a dude well sexed until they are sure they have boxed him in. It is the price chics pay to domesticate a chap who is of marriage material. There is a sense of satisfaction and comfort that comes with being laid regularly. Then a dude commits and reversing becomes difficult, especially when protocols and family have been initiated. This is when the rules check in, no more rampant sex, being consigned to the doghouse is frequent. Sadly for you, (or your friend ), she has brought the meanness out really early. Most women (based on men's complaints) give the dudes some few years of enjoying the fruits after the wedding before the kids arrive or the banality of life starts sucking the joy slowly out of the union. Being friends as well as lovers really helps in situations like these cause when you are friends then communication is easier. But here it appears she just went cold turkey, too confident the man is roped in. Like someone else said I would advocate for open, and candid communication, but lacking that, the dude must be ready to end this relationship and demonstrate this willingness with deadly seriousness. May be it is a blessing in disguise, she is showing her colors early. Can you imagine a long stretch of a future where a guy is forced to grovel for sex and keeps getting denied, walking around with an acute case of blue balls? And the balls become so brittle that a little tap while walking the streets of Nairobi will break them. Life is like playing a violin solo in public and learning the instrument as one goes on.
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