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Sk community, I have been lurking in the shadows and I must admit I value the information in this forum. Now a friend has a not so unique problem and I thought it would be good to ask maybe some of you might have been in the same predicament at some point in your marriage/ courtship.
So my friend has problems with the fiancé. They’ve been together for close to three years now and plans are in full gear to formalize the union. They’ve been staying together(come we stay) for over a year now. The past six months have been tough, the lady developed the lowest libido ever, no medical problem but just the kawaida am tired, kichwa inauma, ooh crumps, ooh it’s too hot open the windows and all manner of excuses. I know what you are thinking but the lady is faithfull and my friend has full confidence in her. The guy on his part has never gone outside, he loves the lady but is a worried man. He has tried everything in the book, from the romantics inuendos, flirty chats the whole day in preparation for a wholesome evening only to end up a frustrated disappointed man. My friend is a worried man, What if the lady maintains status quo, what if he ends up a sad cheating man. Wazuans please saidia.
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 3/27/2009 Posts: 1,437
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mwanafunzi wrote:Sk community, I have been lurking in the shadows and I must admit I value the information in this forum. Now a friend has a not so unique problem and I thought it would be good to ask maybe some of you might have been in the same predicament at some point in your marriage/ courtship.
So my friend has problems with the fiancé. They’ve been together for close to three years now and plans are in full gear to formalize the union. They’ve been staying together(come we stay) for over a year now. The past six months have been tough, the lady developed the lowest libido ever, no medical problem but just the kawaida am tired, kichwa inauma, ooh crumps, ooh it’s too hot open the windows and all manner of excuses. I know what you are thinking but the lady is faithfull and my friend has full confidence in her. The guy on his part has never gone outside, he loves the lady but is a worried man. He has tried everything in the book, from the romantics inuendos, flirty chats the whole day in preparation for a wholesome evening only to end up a frustrated disappointed man. My friend is a worried man, What if the lady maintains status quo, what if he ends up a sad cheating man. Wazuans please saidia.
Welcome to the world of marriage. Did you think all those who cheat are necessarily evil?
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Rank: Elder Joined: 7/1/2011 Posts: 8,804 Location: Nairobi
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The first step is to gather intelligence on the issue then work towards designing a solution that fits. For starters I'd recommend a study in object relations.
But the task isn't going to be easy.
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 6/23/2014 Posts: 1,652
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mwanafunzi wrote:Sk community, I have been lurking in the shadows and I must admit I value the information in this forum. Now a friend has a not so unique problem and I thought it would be good to ask maybe some of you might have been in the same predicament at some point in your marriage/ courtship.
So my friend has problems with the fiancé. They’ve been together for close to three years now and plans are in full gear to formalize the union. They’ve been staying together(come we stay) for over a year now. The past six months have been tough, the lady developed the lowest libido ever, no medical problem but just the kawaida am tired, kichwa inauma, ooh crumps, ooh it’s too hot open the windows and all manner of excuses. I know what you are thinking but the lady is faithfull and my friend has full confidence in her. The guy on his part has never gone outside, he loves the lady but is a worried man. He has tried everything in the book, from the romantics inuendos, flirty chats the whole day in preparation for a wholesome evening only to end up a frustrated disappointed man. My friend is a worried man, What if the lady maintains status quo, what if he ends up a sad cheating man. Wazuans please saidia.
He just need to have an honest discussion with her on this issue.There seems to be a communication problem between the two and they aren't expressing themselves truly.They need to be honest with each other and discuss the issue comprehensively. Is it something that was there initially or it started the other day? It could be something that happened to the lady in her former years that affected her psychologically.It could be the guy is a one minute man and totally frustrates the lady.He is done even before she starts.The key is to have an honest discussion with her. Hutia Mundu!!
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Rank: Elder Joined: 5/1/2010 Posts: 3,024 Location: Hapa
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Wamunyota wrote:mwanafunzi wrote:Sk community, I have been lurking in the shadows and I must admit I value the information in this forum. Now a friend has a not so unique problem and I thought it would be good to ask maybe some of you might have been in the same predicament at some point in your marriage/ courtship.
So my friend has problems with the fiancé. They’ve been together for close to three years now and plans are in full gear to formalize the union. They’ve been staying together(come we stay) for over a year now. The past six months have been tough, the lady developed the lowest libido ever, no medical problem but just the kawaida am tired, kichwa inauma, ooh crumps, ooh it’s too hot open the windows and all manner of excuses. I know what you are thinking but the lady is faithfull and my friend has full confidence in her. The guy on his part has never gone outside, he loves the lady but is a worried man. He has tried everything in the book, from the romantics inuendos, flirty chats the whole day in preparation for a wholesome evening only to end up a frustrated disappointed man. My friend is a worried man, What if the lady maintains status quo, what if he ends up a sad cheating man. Wazuans please saidia.
He just need to have an honest discussion with her on this issue.There seems to be a communication problem between the two and they aren't expressing themselves truly.They need to be honest with each other and discuss the issue comprehensively. Is it something that was there initially or it started the other day? It could be something that happened to the lady in her former years that affected her psychologically.It could be the guy is a one minute man and totally frustrates the lady.He is done even before she starts.The key is to have an honest discussion with her. @Wamunyota, I thought your signature constitutes the advice needed!!  Float like a butterfly, sting like a bee. - Muhammad Ali🐝
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Rank: Elder Joined: 5/1/2010 Posts: 3,024 Location: Hapa
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. Float like a butterfly, sting like a bee. - Muhammad Ali🐝
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Rank: Elder Joined: 5/1/2010 Posts: 3,024 Location: Hapa
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. Float like a butterfly, sting like a bee. - Muhammad Ali🐝
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 6/23/2014 Posts: 1,652
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butterflyke wrote:Wamunyota wrote:mwanafunzi wrote:Sk community, I have been lurking in the shadows and I must admit I value the information in this forum. Now a friend has a not so unique problem and I thought it would be good to ask maybe some of you might have been in the same predicament at some point in your marriage/ courtship.
So my friend has problems with the fiancé. They’ve been together for close to three years now and plans are in full gear to formalize the union. They’ve been staying together(come we stay) for over a year now. The past six months have been tough, the lady developed the lowest libido ever, no medical problem but just the kawaida am tired, kichwa inauma, ooh crumps, ooh it’s too hot open the windows and all manner of excuses. I know what you are thinking but the lady is faithfull and my friend has full confidence in her. The guy on his part has never gone outside, he loves the lady but is a worried man. He has tried everything in the book, from the romantics inuendos, flirty chats the whole day in preparation for a wholesome evening only to end up a frustrated disappointed man. My friend is a worried man, What if the lady maintains status quo, what if he ends up a sad cheating man. Wazuans please saidia.
He just need to have an honest discussion with her on this issue.There seems to be a communication problem between the two and they aren't expressing themselves truly.They need to be honest with each other and discuss the issue comprehensively. Is it something that was there initially or it started the other day? It could be something that happened to the lady in her former years that affected her psychologically.It could be the guy is a one minute man and totally frustrates the lady.He is done even before she starts.The key is to have an honest discussion with her. @Wamunyota, I thought your signature constitutes the advice needed!!  The guy just needs to lead me his wife for a day I show her sweet potato to put. Hutia Mundu!!
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 6/23/2014 Posts: 1,652
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Kwani impunity alikupatia ile simu yake? Hutia Mundu!!
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Rank: Elder Joined: 5/1/2010 Posts: 3,024 Location: Hapa
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Wamunyota wrote:butterflyke wrote:Wamunyota wrote:mwanafunzi wrote:Sk community, I have been lurking in the shadows and I must admit I value the information in this forum. Now a friend has a not so unique problem and I thought it would be good to ask maybe some of you might have been in the same predicament at some point in your marriage/ courtship.
So my friend has problems with the fiancé. They’ve been together for close to three years now and plans are in full gear to formalize the union. They’ve been staying together(come we stay) for over a year now. The past six months have been tough, the lady developed the lowest libido ever, no medical problem but just the kawaida am tired, kichwa inauma, ooh crumps, ooh it’s too hot open the windows and all manner of excuses. I know what you are thinking but the lady is faithfull and my friend has full confidence in her. The guy on his part has never gone outside, he loves the lady but is a worried man. He has tried everything in the book, from the romantics inuendos, flirty chats the whole day in preparation for a wholesome evening only to end up a frustrated disappointed man. My friend is a worried man, What if the lady maintains status quo, what if he ends up a sad cheating man. Wazuans please saidia.
He just need to have an honest discussion with her on this issue.There seems to be a communication problem between the two and they aren't expressing themselves truly.They need to be honest with each other and discuss the issue comprehensively. Is it something that was there initially or it started the other day? It could be something that happened to the lady in her former years that affected her psychologically.It could be the guy is a one minute man and totally frustrates the lady.He is done even before she starts.The key is to have an honest discussion with her. @Wamunyota, I thought your signature constitutes the advice needed!! The guy just needs to lead me his wife for a day I show her sweet potato to put. Just give them the advice and let them implement. Wacha kudoea!! Float like a butterfly, sting like a bee. - Muhammad Ali🐝
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