Why do men of a supposedly mature age (35 and up):

1. Cheat on their partners (wives/girlfriends/boyfriends)? Is it all a game to you/the person doesn't take care of themselves/or you lost interest?
2. String people along after loosing interest? If you've done this were you afraid of hurting the person/hoping they'd initiate the break-up/didn't care etc?
3. Abandon their kids/pregnant partners? If you've been in this position were you scared of the responsibility/have another relationship/doubt the kid was yours etc?

Since we are not animals why do men act so callously? Women around me are dealing with this all the time and as much as we speculate we need to know what goes on in a mans mind to act in such a way.

To quote a tweet I saw today: "You move from 'niaje msupa?' to 'malaya wewe!' in 2 seconds on these Nairobi streets." - Madam. 😔

yes this is whats happening in peoples lives and you will get a lot of advices and also juncks here. everyone is cheating starting with you it's only that you cant say it here because you have been dropped. the best medicine for this scenario is to ravage and be careful everyone is HIV positive may be except you alone. from now be a business partner and forget being a relationship partner.you know the yacht is yours when you get a parking

You are funny ... and no, I was not dumped. I'm in the midst of planning a baby shower for someone who was unceremoniously left with child. It's heartbreaking to say the least.

Hi @ weskate. This "junck" guess "ravages." But you are beautiful! Si ndio?

@zanze, what were you doing until he reached 35 plus? He probably had someone else by 27 or 30 and you came along and you you didn't realize. He must have made the move to end your rship when you started asking "what is our future"?

NOTE 1: Not all men cheat, get yourself a Muslim man, because the percentage of them cheating is very, very minimal, Less than 0.05%, compared to kina @swenani. The faithful ones over 99.9% tell you the truth, at 35, he is most likely already, if you don't mind being 2nd or 3rd or 4th then he would marry you.

NOTE 2: By the way, only less than 2% of Muslim men have more than 1 wife. 98% have only one wife.

What of situations where the woman earns more and can therefore contribute more than the guy? Does it give him permission to step out of the relationship because she is not playing her role? Should she keep her money and let the man support them? Perhaps this is then a matter of ego/pride?

When you're 30+ and you're a man, chances are you've made some extra money, it doesn't matter whether it's kshs 20k extra or millions, you've just made some money; what happen is, you start feeling entitled so if your wife/girlfriend didn't grow with your pressumed status(stayed in good shape and looks) you'll inevitably look at other women of your status.

Women ~ if you want your man to stick around when they start making the money make sure you're growing with him. Look good, smell good, grow your intellect.....just because you're married doesn't mean you can let yourself get too fat and ugly, and smelling bad and expect a man to stay!

Most, if not all humans, are intellectually compatible.

Exactly. Mwafrika was happy with polygamy for ages before the white man came with his ujinga just the other day.

It is true this is another contributor, what works for men was destabilized by Western thinking. They forgot many factors come to play such as higher libido for men, more aggressiveness, more women than men (I mean marriageable mark my words), nature of men to variety etc. What has happened now is a larger pool of marriageable women than men causing in-equation, hence pressure on men both married and unmarried.

Fortunately, now it is back in our constitution, men have no excuse but to behave. Take responsibility and stop hit and run habits.