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Kikuyu dowry rules
Swenani
#41 Posted : Monday, February 23, 2015 3:18:18 PM
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Ms Mkenya wrote:
@Guka, what happens when a guy wants to marry after divorce from the first wife? Is it different for a lady?


Ms Kenya,what are you trying to tell us? I hope Mukiri won't see this
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Muheani
#42 Posted : Monday, February 23, 2015 3:36:25 PM
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Ms Mkenya wrote:
@Guka, what happens when a guy wants to marry after divorce from the first wife? Is it different for a lady?


Traditional Kikuyu Divorce I believe entails a return of part of the dowry earlier paid. The man/man's family is paid back. Part of it is retained as penalty-Wazees decide

And the Wife has to be physically delivered back to her parents by senior women/elders from the Husbands family with a detailed explanation as to why their girl can no longer make a wife to their son.

Then each is free to remarry..and the lady will still be paid for dowry by the new man

And the Guy will pay dowry for the new wife


This is easier when the couple is young...but it can still be done even in old age.
XSK
#43 Posted : Monday, February 23, 2015 3:42:17 PM
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Swenani wrote:
YoungMulla wrote:
Motomoto wrote:
kenmac wrote:
I have searched the internet for comprehensive information regarding kikuyu dowry rules, and the web is getting smaller because the websites have just copy pasted from each other.

I need to know; Suppose a man did not pay dowry for his wife. In this scenario, it is against the customs and traditions for the man to receive dowry when one of his daughters is getting married. What does the culture say about a son marrying. Can the son give dowry to his fiance's family, or must the dad clear with the grandparents?

I need the help from wazua kikuyu elders.

If you do not follow some of these traditional practices, they will come to haunt you later on. Culture is very important in as much as we have become westernized..


How true are these generational curses. Anyone have an example???


Mawinder is a good example


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Has Mawinder seen this? Laughing out loudly Laughing out loudly
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Njung'e
#44 Posted : Monday, February 23, 2015 3:54:17 PM
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Ms Mkenya wrote:
@Guka, what happens when a guy wants to marry after divorce from the first wife? Is it different for a lady?



Depends with the reason of divorce.If the woman was at fault,she would be taken back to her parents by WAZEES upon which the family would refund dowry.If there were children involved,they would remain with the man.A new suitor to the lady would pay dowry to the first man where dowry had not been surrendered

Where a man was at fault,he would forfeit dowry,the woman would still be taken back by wazees and the man would forfeit both the dowry and children.

....BUT,there is a ceremony called "gwatura kiande".Once performed,this marks a point of no return.You can separate but you cannot divorce....and this is why you hear some men say of their wives,"Uyu ni wakwa matu na hia" (This one is mine ears and horns)smile ....I hope this helps.
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mawinder
#45 Posted : Monday, February 23, 2015 3:57:56 PM
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XSK wrote:
Swenani wrote:
YoungMulla wrote:
Motomoto wrote:
kenmac wrote:
I have searched the internet for comprehensive information regarding kikuyu dowry rules, and the web is getting smaller because the websites have just copy pasted from each other.

I need to know; Suppose a man did not pay dowry for his wife. In this scenario, it is against the customs and traditions for the man to receive dowry when one of his daughters is getting married. What does the culture say about a son marrying. Can the son give dowry to his fiance's family, or must the dad clear with the grandparents?

I need the help from wazua kikuyu elders.

If you do not follow some of these traditional practices, they will come to haunt you later on. Culture is very important in as much as we have become westernized..


How true are these generational curses. Anyone have an example???


Mawinder is a good example


Laughing out loudly Laughing out loudly

Has Mawinder seen this? Laughing out loudly Laughing out loudly

How do you associate me with this community???
In our culture we dont have such bullshit!!!!!!
Njung'e
#46 Posted : Monday, February 23, 2015 4:07:43 PM
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mawinder wrote:
XSK wrote:
[quote=Swenani][quote=YoungMulla][quote=Motomoto][quote=kenmac]
Has Mawinder seen this? Laughing out loudly Laughing out loudly

How do you associate me with this community???
In our culture we dont have such bullsh*t!!!!!!


It's because you don't have bulls!


Nothing great was ever achieved without enthusiasm.
Ms Mkenya
#47 Posted : Monday, February 23, 2015 4:38:39 PM
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Njung'e wrote:
Ms Mkenya wrote:
@Guka, what happens when a guy wants to marry after divorce from the first wife? Is it different for a lady?



Depends with the reason of divorce.If the woman was at fault,she would be taken back to her parents by WAZEES upon which the family would refund dowry.If there were children involved,they would remain with the man.A new suitor to the lady would pay dowry to the first man where dowry had not been surrendered

Where a man was at fault,he would forfeit dowry,the woman would still be taken back by wazees and the man would forfeit both the dowry and children.

....BUT,there is a ceremony called "gwatura kiande".Once performed,this marks a point of no return.You can separate but you cannot divorce....and this is why you hear some men say of their wives,"Uyu ni wakwa matu na hia" (This one is mine ears and horns)smile ....I hope this helps.


Thanks for the info. Interesting after all the ceremonies that take place before marriage. And even more interesting that a guy forfeits his dowry but has to pay again if he remarries. What if he was not at fault?

As for us ladies it appears we are just a transaction!
....above all, to stand.
Iganamagana
#48 Posted : Monday, February 23, 2015 4:46:36 PM
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mawinder wrote:
XSK wrote:
Swenani wrote:
YoungMulla wrote:
Motomoto wrote:
kenmac wrote:
I have searched the internet for comprehensive information regarding kikuyu dowry rules, and the web is getting smaller because the websites have just copy pasted from each other.

I need to know; Suppose a man did not pay dowry for his wife. In this scenario, it is against the customs and traditions for the man to receive dowry when one of his daughters is getting married. What does the culture say about a son marrying. Can the son give dowry to his fiance's family, or must the dad clear with the grandparents?

I need the help from wazua kikuyu elders.

If you do not follow some of these traditional practices, they will come to haunt you later on. Culture is very important in as much as we have become westernized..


How true are these generational curses. Anyone have an example???


Mawinder is a good example


Laughing out loudly Laughing out loudly

Has Mawinder seen this? Laughing out loudly Laughing out loudly

How do you associate me with this community???
In our culture we dont have such bullshit!!!!!!


They meant you are a cursed one!!!
Ngogoyo
#49 Posted : Monday, February 23, 2015 5:04:06 PM
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Iganamagana wrote:
mawinder wrote:
XSK wrote:
Swenani wrote:
YoungMulla wrote:
Motomoto wrote:
kenmac wrote:
I have searched the internet for comprehensive information regarding kikuyu dowry rules, and the web is getting smaller because the websites have just copy pasted from each other.

I need to know; Suppose a man did not pay dowry for his wife. In this scenario, it is against the customs and traditions for the man to receive dowry when one of his daughters is getting married. What does the culture say about a son marrying. Can the son give dowry to his fiance's family, or must the dad clear with the grandparents?

I need the help from wazua kikuyu elders.

If you do not follow some of these traditional practices, they will come to haunt you later on. Culture is very important in as much as we have become westernized..


How true are these generational curses. Anyone have an example???


Mawinder is a good example


Laughing out loudly Laughing out loudly

Has Mawinder seen this? Laughing out loudly Laughing out loudly

How do you associate me with this community???
In our culture we dont have such bullshit!!!!!!


They meant you are a cursed one!!!


Laughing out loudly Laughing out loudly him an @Alpha COULD be 'anti-nyita'
Sansa
#50 Posted : Tuesday, January 30, 2018 12:01:58 AM
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Let me revive this old topic.

Since kikuyu dowry is never fully paid-off, what ceremonies are involved when you go back for another ruracio?
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