20 is on my rear view and 30 in my sights. Never been married before but have dated 2 girls, different times. Am i polygamous? What about those divorced and re-married severally, are they monogamous? And the married types with side dishes-both sexes, are they monogamous? Serious problems arise when you apply western standards to african cultures. In early days of colonial rule, a man killed his neighbor. The only probable witness was his 'wife'. The prosecutor wanted to call the 'wife' as a witness against the man. Problem was that under english law a man and his wife are ONE. Therefore a wife cannot be required to testify against HERSELF. Judge was in a dilemma, but after carefully looking at african 'marriage' rites, exchange of dowry and feasting he concluded that no marriage took place between africans but rather 'wife purchase'. And the 'wife' was forced to to testify!
Life is short. Live passionately.