Rank: Elder Joined: 6/20/2008 Posts: 6,275 Location: Kenya
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washiku wrote:AlphDoti wrote:Let me tell you a story about a young man who reaches the age of 25. In that village, there was a woman, a successful businesswoman, boss-lady, who was 40 years old and had been widowed twice. Then at that age of 25, the man chooses to marry the woman, who was 15 years older than himself and a widow.
The man remained with his wife until he reaches the age of 50. And we know that the age in which men would have strong desires towards women would be from young age. So for him to remain married to her in a very happy marriage from the age of 25 to the age of 50 is so amazing.
Then unfortunately the woman, his wife, passes away! The man remained as a bachelor for about 2 to 3 years. Later on he married another widow, who was also quite old at age...
To cut the long story short, this man is none other than Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him). And the woman was Khadijah bint Khuwaylid.
So to me, I think with the right intention, clear expectations, communication, respect and commitment, a relationship will work regardless of age. But the age must not be too wide, for example a man of 70 years marrying a girl of 22 years is a bit too out of place.
IMPORTANT: Please people, don't turn this into religious argument. I'm just giving you an example, an amazing love story of a man and woman who lived years ago, with an amazing. What age difference is too much? 15 yrs? 20yrs 40yrs? @washiku, nowhere is this gap specific. The gap shouldn't prevent husband from satisfying his wife's physical needs. I cannot prescribe gap limit. But, husband has to ensure that woman's minimum sexual requirements are met so that she may not commit a sin by eyeing other men in order to quench her thirst. There are certain men as old as say 80, who marry a 22 year old woman, and after marriage, do not take care of the sexual needs of their wives.
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