Men, what is happening in our bedrooms? How do you handle a wife of 23 years when you just realise that she is cheating on you?

Link:http://www.nation.co.ke/lifestyle/DN2/I-have-miscarried-six-times-now-my-hubby-insists-I-am-worthless/-/957860/2508606/-/hqg83yz/-/index.html

"Dear Kitoto,
I’m married for 23 years. Our children are grown-ups. My wife returned two years ago after two years of separation. She had cheated on me. I forgave her when she returned, though she alleged that l was to blame; that I was not being loving and supportive. To me, that was just an excuse.

Recently, l noticed she was always on her phone texting. I found out she was telling some men how she was longing for sex. When asked, she became defensive and accused me of not wanting her to have friends. As usual in her view, l was still to blame.

l have realised that she can’t stick with one man. I no longer trust her. Do l propose a divorce? I would not mind some counselling too."

I hope you wont post their issues on the internet. I wonder why they chose you for a best couple if you can have the audacity to share their issues with the whole world. Internet is never a secret world, one day they will know the person they trusted with their secrets told all of it to unknown people. Please dont share with us. Help them if you can to sort out their issues.

Agreed, that would be irresponsible!!!

Look here mate, your intentions may be right, but the approach is very wrong. The point where you started with "Its about a campus friend at whose wedding we were the best couple...." you blew it up. Someone in here will know you or know them, at one point, your friends who chose to trust you with their lives will come to know. Its a very bad breach of trust. If you value the kind of 'advise' "WE" give here on those fish(y) threads, then go ahead and use a better way. Otherwise, just change your mind and save your friends the embarrassment, unless they authorize you to do it here. The day people chose you as their best couple, you kinda sign a confidentiality clause to keep their business confidential. If at any one point you might require help in handling their issues, a lot of wisdom have to be applied so as not to jeopardize the sanctity of their relationship. Oooh my, I wish people could treat that 'best couple' duty with the seriousness it deserves.

Commitment is key in any marriage if one partner isn't it doesn't matter how much the other partners is. When u reconcile there somethings u agree on and either of u must keep his or her word. The partners need to let each other know what they expect and that y communication is important if you think what the other party expects of u is not deliverable then u need to make a decision.

Well I hear you. But I have already covered my tracks even with that statement in red. But im really hoping I will help the couple.

Wazuan friend, okay!

Weka sasa. We are really waiting for this juicy storo.

I have since withdrawn. Now let me ask a general question.
If you find out that your wife is cheating on you. And there is evidence,love sms, mpesa transactions etc, etc. what do you do?

Sasa wewe Um Sayala you promise to give us a juicy storo and then you leave us hanging nkt