What, pray tell, causes two people who start out
in love come to this level of resentment? Ni nini hufanyikia watu wakioana?
Sure there are marriages out there that hold up decently, but there doesn't seem to be that many examples. Or maybe it's just me.
I think something is seriously wrong with the entire sociocultural production line, especially as relates to marriages. And I don't think it is a new problem. I do not believe that couples were happier in 1914 than they are in 2014, on average. There just wasn't as much "speaking out" going on then.
And marriages are the foundation of the family, and the family the foundation society. So this is a big deal.
But maybe even that logic is warped. It's not even clear what a family is anymore. Monogamy. Polygamy. Polyandry. Homosexual relationships. They all seem to have equal potential for misery.
And people change. Maybe they don't. Maybe they just marry the wrong people. What's the deal with getting committed to a single individual for the majority of one's life anyway - complete with religious and state enforcement? To raise children? It sure doesn't seem to be for happiness because people aren't encouraged to ship out if the union hits the rocks. Isn't there a chance that this very logic is fundamentally flawed?
You would think I know!
Learn first to treat your time as you would your money, then treat your money as you do your time.