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urstill1 wrote:jaggernaut wrote:If a muzungu has relationships with 3 women within 3 yrs, via marriage and divorce, he's termed faithful and civilised.
When a black man has relationships with 3 women within 3yrs, but doesn't take the marriage and divorce route, and supports all of them, he's termed promiscuous and primitive.
However, the basic fact is that both have ******* 3 women within the three yrs but the world treats them differently.
 On point. We should stop seeing things mzungu way. Whether it is promiscuous or polygamous, a man was created to domineer not just one lady but several. Is that not why we are very egoistic? There's no problem in having several women. Just marry them. It's allowed in law, no? Luck is when Preparation meets Opportunity. ~ Lucius Annaeus Seneca
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Rank: Elder Joined: 7/1/2011 Posts: 8,804 Location: Nairobi
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Swenani wrote:tycho wrote:quicksand wrote:kiwaru wrote:What is the proportion of men cheat on their partners? (whether married or in friend-with-benefits relationships)? Anecdotal evidence is acceptable
What makes men cheat
Compared to men, do women cheat as much? Why (not)?
@swenani... since you already have built a reputation, any insights? Why do you need an answer to this question? The important thing is that you don't cheat, trying to understand the psyche of one half of the planet's population will leave you out of breath. There are no guarantees with, but if it was me being asked by a woman what she would need to do to keep me interested I would advise her thusly: 1. None of that denial-of-sex, in-the-doghouse crap, at least not for long. Keep a man from sex for more than a week and his blueballs condition will have him searching for it outside, with someone else. Girls out there give it up with shocking ease!! Even when they know there is someone else, and perhaps even know her too. 2. Stay slim, pretty, dress well. Outdoor activities help. Most men are scared of losing a gorgeous, well preserved wife. 3. Men remain babies with fragile egos. That means you do not forget about him cause you have given birth. Many women make the mistake of getting totally immersed in raising children and leave a guy to his devices. When she comes to 5 years later when kids are off to school the dude is tapping someone else. Now #2 and #3 is where women jump in in righteous protest, cause these are all hard sacrifices when the dude has an easy road, but sorry girls, there is no justice on this road. Things are what they are. Give a dude sex, nice home, a comfortable life, he will think hard before stepping out. It is the thinking that counts. Make life hard and there will be no thinking to temper the erection. My 2 cents. One should be able to live without demanding sex or expecting sex from his female partner(s). @Tycho,why are you cheating on yourself? On the contrary@swenani.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 7/1/2011 Posts: 8,804 Location: Nairobi
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quicksand wrote:tycho wrote:quicksand wrote:kiwaru wrote:What is the proportion of men cheat on their partners? (whether married or in friend-with-benefits relationships)? Anecdotal evidence is acceptable
What makes men cheat
Compared to men, do women cheat as much? Why (not)?
@swenani... since you already have built a reputation, any insights? Why do you need an answer to this question? The important thing is that you don't cheat, trying to understand the psyche of one half of the planet's population will leave you out of breath. There are no guarantees with, but if it was me being asked by a woman what she would need to do to keep me interested I would advise her thusly: 1. None of that denial-of-sex, in-the-doghouse crap, at least not for long. Keep a man from sex for more than a week and his blueballs condition will have him searching for it outside, with someone else. Girls out there give it up with shocking ease!! Even when they know there is someone else, and perhaps even know her too. 2. Stay slim, pretty, dress well. Outdoor activities help. Most men are scared of losing a gorgeous, well preserved wife. 3. Men remain babies with fragile egos. That means you do not forget about him cause you have given birth. Many women make the mistake of getting totally immersed in raising children and leave a guy to his devices. When she comes to 5 years later when kids are off to school the dude is tapping someone else. Now #2 and #3 is where women jump in in righteous protest, cause these are all hard sacrifices when the dude has an easy road, but sorry girls, there is no justice on this road. Things are what they are. Give a dude sex, nice home, a comfortable life, he will think hard before stepping out. It is the thinking that counts. Make life hard and there will be no thinking to temper the erection. My 2 cents. One should be able to live without demanding sex or expecting sex from his female partner(s). Yes. One shouldn't have to demand sex, it should be granted willingly. But a guy should expect that his wife will screw him often and for many years to come as long as the bodies and strength allows. Sex is a primal, base need for humans. Its like hunger for food, thirst for water, you cannot Zen it out. If you don't put something in your stomach, you will die. It should not be the only thing in the relationship, but it is one of the important pillars. When physical intimacy is removed the relationship starts to fester. Its biology. You can repress urges, but you can't eliminate them. Repressed urges lead to bad health or a bad psychological state. @quicksand, these ideas you're giving have one assumption: sexual urges can't be under conscious control and experienced under such conditions that allow other forms of expression. And that these conscious controls can do away with the necessity of 'expecting to be screwed' and consequently remove all sexual pressure from the female, and even the male. You're asserting the status quo. But the evidence to show the status quo is mulfunctional, and even degrading is ample. Besides, we should be careful because sex without conscious control leads to many problems. For example, personality development may be hampered, you might damage your kidneys, and last but not least, you become a sloppy lover. Zen isn't about repression. It's about expression. Free expression. Becoming a supreme lover, accepting total responsibility for your sexuality and not relying on another.
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tycho wrote:quicksand wrote:tycho wrote:quicksand wrote:kiwaru wrote:What is the proportion of men cheat on their partners? (whether married or in friend-with-benefits relationships)? Anecdotal evidence is acceptable
What makes men cheat
Compared to men, do women cheat as much? Why (not)?
@swenani... since you already have built a reputation, any insights? Why do you need an answer to this question? The important thing is that you don't cheat, trying to understand the psyche of one half of the planet's population will leave you out of breath. There are no guarantees with, but if it was me being asked by a woman what she would need to do to keep me interested I would advise her thusly: 1. None of that denial-of-sex, in-the-doghouse crap, at least not for long. Keep a man from sex for more than a week and his blueballs condition will have him searching for it outside, with someone else. Girls out there give it up with shocking ease!! Even when they know there is someone else, and perhaps even know her too. 2. Stay slim, pretty, dress well. Outdoor activities help. Most men are scared of losing a gorgeous, well preserved wife. 3. Men remain babies with fragile egos. That means you do not forget about him cause you have given birth. Many women make the mistake of getting totally immersed in raising children and leave a guy to his devices. When she comes to 5 years later when kids are off to school the dude is tapping someone else. Now #2 and #3 is where women jump in in righteous protest, cause these are all hard sacrifices when the dude has an easy road, but sorry girls, there is no justice on this road. Things are what they are. Give a dude sex, nice home, a comfortable life, he will think hard before stepping out. It is the thinking that counts. Make life hard and there will be no thinking to temper the erection. My 2 cents. One should be able to live without demanding sex or expecting sex from his female partner(s). Yes. One shouldn't have to demand sex, it should be granted willingly. But a guy should expect that his wife will screw him often and for many years to come as long as the bodies and strength allows. Sex is a primal, base need for humans. Its like hunger for food, thirst for water, you cannot Zen it out. If you don't put something in your stomach, you will die. It should not be the only thing in the relationship, but it is one of the important pillars. When physical intimacy is removed the relationship starts to fester. Its biology. You can repress urges, but you can't eliminate them. Repressed urges lead to bad health or a bad psychological state. @quicksand, these ideas you're giving have one assumption: sexual urges can't be under conscious control and experienced under such conditions that allow other forms of expression. And that these conscious controls can do away with the necessity of 'expecting to be screwed' and consequently remove all sexual pressure from the female, and even the male. You're asserting the status quo. But the evidence to show the status quo is mulfunctional, and even degrading is ample. Besides, we should be careful because sex without conscious control leads to many problems. For example, personality development may be hampered, you might damage your kidneys, and last but not least, you become a sloppy lover. Zen isn't about repression. It's about expression. Free expression. Becoming a supreme lover, accepting total responsibility for your sexuality and not relying on another. @tycho How do you express yourself and not rely on another?    
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Rank: Elder Joined: 7/1/2011 Posts: 8,804 Location: Nairobi
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kiwaru wrote:tycho wrote:quicksand wrote:tycho wrote:quicksand wrote:kiwaru wrote:What is the proportion of men cheat on their partners? (whether married or in friend-with-benefits relationships)? Anecdotal evidence is acceptable
What makes men cheat
Compared to men, do women cheat as much? Why (not)?
@swenani... since you already have built a reputation, any insights? Why do you need an answer to this question? The important thing is that you don't cheat, trying to understand the psyche of one half of the planet's population will leave you out of breath. There are no guarantees with, but if it was me being asked by a woman what she would need to do to keep me interested I would advise her thusly: 1. None of that denial-of-sex, in-the-doghouse crap, at least not for long. Keep a man from sex for more than a week and his blueballs condition will have him searching for it outside, with someone else. Girls out there give it up with shocking ease!! Even when they know there is someone else, and perhaps even know her too. 2. Stay slim, pretty, dress well. Outdoor activities help. Most men are scared of losing a gorgeous, well preserved wife. 3. Men remain babies with fragile egos. That means you do not forget about him cause you have given birth. Many women make the mistake of getting totally immersed in raising children and leave a guy to his devices. When she comes to 5 years later when kids are off to school the dude is tapping someone else. Now #2 and #3 is where women jump in in righteous protest, cause these are all hard sacrifices when the dude has an easy road, but sorry girls, there is no justice on this road. Things are what they are. Give a dude sex, nice home, a comfortable life, he will think hard before stepping out. It is the thinking that counts. Make life hard and there will be no thinking to temper the erection. My 2 cents. One should be able to live without demanding sex or expecting sex from his female partner(s). Yes. One shouldn't have to demand sex, it should be granted willingly. But a guy should expect that his wife will screw him often and for many years to come as long as the bodies and strength allows. Sex is a primal, base need for humans. Its like hunger for food, thirst for water, you cannot Zen it out. If you don't put something in your stomach, you will die. It should not be the only thing in the relationship, but it is one of the important pillars. When physical intimacy is removed the relationship starts to fester. Its biology. You can repress urges, but you can't eliminate them. Repressed urges lead to bad health or a bad psychological state. @quicksand, these ideas you're giving have one assumption: sexual urges can't be under conscious control and experienced under such conditions that allow other forms of expression. And that these conscious controls can do away with the necessity of 'expecting to be screwed' and consequently remove all sexual pressure from the female, and even the male. You're asserting the status quo. But the evidence to show the status quo is mulfunctional, and even degrading is ample. Besides, we should be careful because sex without conscious control leads to many problems. For example, personality development may be hampered, you might damage your kidneys, and last but not least, you become a sloppy lover. Zen isn't about repression. It's about expression. Free expression. Becoming a supreme lover, accepting total responsibility for your sexuality and not relying on another. @tycho How do you express yourself and not rely on another? This is possible if you can understand the mechanism of spiritual maturity exemplified in an expression like 'lose your self to gain your Self'. If you gain this 'Self' you don't rely on another.
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Help her raise the kids. You'd be too busy to think of other women. Parenting (responsible parenting) is no joke. "Peace is our profession, War is our business" ...Unknown
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I hope I dont sound like am pontificating.
Prov 6:26 says "for the prostitute reduces you to a loaf of bread, and the adulteress preys upon your very life.
Prov 5:15-19 says "15 Drink water from your own cistern, running water from your own well. 16 Should your springs overflow in the streets, your streams of water in the public squares? 17 Let them be yours alone, never to be shared with strangers 18 May your fountain be blessed, and may you rejoice in the wife of your youth. 19 A loving doe, a graceful deer— may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be captivated by her love."
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SHAME!!! Portfolio: Sold
You know you've made it when you get a parking space for your yatcht.
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Someone ask that pastor busted on KTN. Why was the woman smilling?  "The longer the fuse the mightier the blast!"
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