Couldn't find a better title.. Anyway
Today on churchill was Equity Banks's CEO with his Family.
His wife was asked if she would consider buying his son a 600cc bike and she said No! He must work hard and buy his own.
The son confirmed that he was raised up with the belief that one must only consume what they make and for that reason, he doesn't count on his parent's support.
Now that sounds pretty responsible and mature.

The discussion made me remember a talk by a friend of mine. I was praising the work of some old men, when he interjected by saying that even though some of our beliefs sound morally upright, they are infact archaic and hinder development.
I probed him further.
The 'mtoto ajitegemee mwenyewe' teaching has no substance, it seems.
He instead supports the idea of parents offering full support if they can,as is the case with Indians.For instance;

Kasam has a rich son. He employs him to manage one of his firms in....Nakuru. He ensures the son has a nice place to stay,then requests his good friend Ali to look after his son and ensure that he doesn't go hungry.He even goes a step further to find him a 'wife' and the cycle repeats itself.

That makes the son fully concentrate on expanding biz instead of chasing bad debts and mipangos. By the time he is 30,dude is a millionaire.
The struggling kenyan on the other hand is just starting out at that age.ie If he has started..
With 89 kids out of wedlock,no house,carloan,a hundred mipangos,mashida tu....A Quincy in the making.

In short the 'rest' won't let their kids suffer just because they did.We could be sadists without knowing.

Where's the lesson? # assembles the microscope#

Sweetie, 87% of wazuans are single (7% by choice 93% by their bad manners),8% are married with no kids,2% are married with kids who are over 13 and rarely log into wazua due to stress ya madeni the remaining 3% of us are married with kids below 13 years and we spend most of our time worrying whether our kids will turn out to be straight or gays/lesbians

In short don't expect wazuans to ppositively or actively contribute to this tthread

Parenting is about equipping the offspring with skills to survive and thrive and it heavily depends on immediate cultural context. You can't judge either to be right or wrong at a glance. It is the examples potrayed/offered by the parent/parental figure coupled along with the lessons taught that make an impact. You'd have to look at the daily lessons taught and the consistency with which the parent acts/provides a role model example.

Proper parenting is about cultivating spiritual maturity. Not affording things or finding earnings.

Incidentally, two of Dr Mwangi's children went to Starehe after which they went to Brown Uni and Canergie Leadership institute. Those who have interacted with those guys (Dr Mwangi's children) will tell you they exude confidence but are very very humble. I posit that they have grown up with the the philosophy of "know many, trust a few, paddle your own canoe"
Parenting is an intentional skill which requires time and effort. Key life lessons must intentionally be distilled from parent or mentor to the child or mentee.
Compare kids of Dr Mwangi and other children from other birrionares and you will see what I mean