@swenani it's you who needs to decolonise yours, because your perception of women in your eyes leaves a lot to be desired.

You see woman is a pillar of every society. How a woman is, will determine, the way that society or home or country will end up.

We say in Islam: Paradise is at the feet of your mother.

We must have the sensitivity, reverence and the respect to our mothers, wives and daughters.

If such respect has been denigrated (underminded) anywhere in the world, then this is because of their cultural, ethnic thinking.

But these people who undermind women, who are they? They are human beings. They are people claiming to have sober minds. The right mind thinking and the practice is trapped inside cultural pockets and bottles.

All these things people consider women to be, has nothing to do with the right position of women, as was commanded by their designer, God Almighty.

These may not be the same as what we see in their various ethnic, national societies.

@swenani yeah... I get it.

You care so so much to uplift the lives of the women and you can't get married yet and at the same time you want to fulfill their needs (did you mean 'your' needs or 'their' needs?).

I think you shouldn't be around those women you care so so much. It's like being around black forest cake that you love so so much, and you look at the cake so so much and you don't cut it. But you just get a little piece of the cake.

This is same thing to those women. You're spending improper time with them, visiting them, meeting them on the streets, and in your car and in the restaurants...

So I tell you, whoever daughters they are, you need to respect them and leave them alone. You don't even have a right to call or text them.
Maybe you can just hide somewhere on the street and when they pass, you hide behind an electricity pole and just look at them. That might be allowed for you to do.

Otherwise, go to that young lady parents, talk to your parents, make plans. If you are a man enough to take up responsibilities and you have a house. And marry that woman you care so so much.

She will be more uplifted in your house married, than what you're doing fish-mongering

That way, you'd have decolonised your mind

Oh!

Talk of one using his/her standards to judge others!

Talk on your behalf.

So if Carol Mutoko doesnt wants to get married and she wants to be eaten,then the man eating her is taking advantage of her?

We can also say that you took advantage of the woman you are currently calling your wife and enslaved her to be your wife