westkate wrote:sorry for the mixup its my hubby am the she and not he as it was on the post .hope i could edit it again.
someone mentioned about mid 40s crisis. whats all about. as said all our kids are big and in high school, but i cant imagine the passion he has to go to mugithi and he is very oky for me to join him anytime.i have taken him to reminise club , and the way he dances really attracts the attentions of other females.he says to me that its only dancing and nothing more. but i have a question . if i decide also to join clubbing with my friends upto late night ,is he going to complain or feel uncomfortable.even me i can try sukuma wiki na terere as well if this is the case as #swenani is suggesting.
First, all situations can be turned to profit if you have the right attitude. A calm spirit devoid of fear and anger, and knowledge will always clear the way for you. If these are absent, then pain and misery must follow.
Your family is facing two fault lines: the children are grappling with 'identity crisis', and your husband 'mid-life crisis'. I refer to some psychological situations that are normally associated with 'crises' or deep conflict among members.
Yours, as you age isn't far off. So if you wish, you can steer the family through these times, and prepare a good place for yourself even when you face your own issues in future.
@Sheri has started you off well. But that's a part of it. If you fail to resolve the internal conflict control will be lost. You need to be secure and strong from within. There are many techniques available to help you with this. The internet is one place to start. Deepen your use of it.