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westkate
#1 Posted : Monday, August 04, 2014 8:33:40 AM
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hi wazuas,
i have been in marriage for the last 15 years and all has been well. my hubby now has decided to join the mugithi group every weekend and he argues that its healthy to go out and have a wine and some gomas. to me feels like a betrayal although i have no clue what he is after . he says he likes music and dancing on the floor and wine. life is shot. am compassionate and busy i cannot afford such a life although money is not an issue. should i stop her or let it go .
lets us be social and discuss the implication of this in the long term.
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FancyFace
#2 Posted : Monday, August 04, 2014 8:47:00 AM
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westkate wrote:
hi wazuas,
i have been in marriage for the last 15 years and all has been well. my hubby now has decided to join the mugithi group every weekend and he argues that its healthy to go out and have a wine and some gomas. to me feels like a betrayal although i have no clue what he is after . he says he likes music and dancing on the floor and wine. life is shot. am compassionate and busy i cannot afford such a life although money is not an issue. should i stop her or let it go .
lets us be social and discuss the implication of this in the long term.

Could be mid life crisis....happens and will go after a few years, its a phase

Meanwhile you confuse me with the highlighted....

Problems can get out of proportion, and not only in the wee small hours. Don't let the problems eclipse the Master. Let the Master eclipse the problems.
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YoungMulla
#3 Posted : Monday, August 04, 2014 8:49:17 AM
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westkate wrote:
hi wazuas,
i have been in marriage for the last 15 years and all has been well. my hubby now has decided to join the mugithi group every weekend and he argues that its healthy to go out and have a wine and some gomas. to me feels like a betrayal although i have no clue what he is after . he says he likes music and dancing on the floor and wine. life is shot. am compassionate and busy i cannot afford such a life although money is not an issue. should i stop her or let it go .
lets us be social and discuss the implication of this in the long term.


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Impunity
#4 Posted : Monday, August 04, 2014 9:14:04 AM
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By this time I hope you have sired enough kids and stopped the that business.
If so then please let him be and just insist he daent do the ndogo-ndogos during the outings.

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D32
#5 Posted : Monday, August 04, 2014 9:24:18 AM
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YoungMulla wrote:
westkate wrote:
hi wazuas,
i have been in marriage for the last 15 years and all has been well. my hubby now has decided to join the mugithi group every weekend and he argues that its healthy to go out and have a wine and some gomas. to me feels like a betrayal although i have no clue what he is after . he says he likes music and dancing on the floor and wine. life is shot. am compassionate and busy i cannot afford such a life although money is not an issue. should i stop her or let it go .
lets us be social and discuss the implication of this in the long term.




They tried to bury us, they didn't know we were seeds.
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Swenani
#6 Posted : Monday, August 04, 2014 9:55:55 AM
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westkate wrote:
hi wazuas,
i have been in marriage for the last 15 years and all has been well. my hubby now has decided to join the mugithi group every weekend and he argues that its healthy to go out and have a wine and some gomas. to me feels like a betrayal although i have no clue what he is after . he says he likes music and dancing on the floor and wine. life is shot. am compassionate and busy i cannot afford such a life although money is not an issue. should i stop her or let it go .
lets us be social and discuss the implication of this in the long term.


washa mzee avunje mifupa kama meno bado ipo.You will agree with me that eating beef for the last 15 years can at some point be boring.Let him try pork,mutton, managu,chicken.

He will be back when when he is 60 yrs
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kimiri
#7 Posted : Monday, August 04, 2014 10:05:30 AM
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[quote=D32][quote=YoungMulla][quote=westkate]hi wazuas,
i have been in marriage for the last 15 years and all has been well. my hubby now has decided to join the mugithi group every weekend and he argues that its healthy to go out and have a wine and some gomas. to me feels like a betrayal although i have no clue what he is after . he says he likes music and dancing on the floor and wine. life is shot. am compassionate and busy i cannot afford such a life although money is not an issue. should i stop her or let it go .
[i]lets us be social and discuss the implication of this in the long term.

I am also confused! Are you a plug or a socket or you are not sure?
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Tebes
#8 Posted : Monday, August 04, 2014 10:05:46 AM
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You are lucky its only weekends......


And who married the other??? You are referring to "her"....


But please dont increase the frequency of the Chapatis....
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muganda
#9 Posted : Monday, August 04, 2014 10:07:27 AM
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FancyFace wrote:
westkate wrote:
hi wazuas,
i have been in marriage for the last 15 years and all has been well. my hubby now has decided to join the mugithi group every weekend and he argues that its healthy to go out and have a wine and some gomas. to me feels like a betrayal although i have no clue what he is after . he says he likes music and dancing on the floor and wine. life is shot. am compassionate and busy i cannot afford such a life although money is not an issue. should i stop her or let it go .
lets us be social and discuss the implication of this in the long term.

Could be mid life crisis....happens and will go after a few years, its a phase

Meanwhile you confuse me with the highlighted....


Seems change in long term relationships is inevitable. Maybe it comes around as couples reach their 40s. So one wants more, or something different, or to rediscover themselves afresh. And another feels betrayed, inadequate, mistrustful due to prior ways or laid down expectations.

So yes, life is complicated. As @FancyFace advises, this too shall pass. What would you do if you were meeting the person afresh, with no baggage, second time round? It takes love; do that.
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Impunity
#10 Posted : Monday, August 04, 2014 10:25:52 AM
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Tebes wrote:
You are lucky its only weekends......


And who married the other??? You are referring to "her"....


But please dont increase the frequency of the Chapatis....


visit that woman in Embu for deterrent details.
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