Rank: Elder Joined: 10/4/2006 Posts: 13,823 Location: Nairobi
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due to infanticide - there are already fewer indian women than men however the folks of the chick should be happy rather than 'kutoanishwa' dowry as is the custom in india - they would actually gain something from the mzee who has confessed ako na ng'ombe. But seriously, the culture of considering marriages as 'marrying up', 'marrying well' and 'marrying down' should stop. @ecstacy had shared a blog by an indian here sometime back that spoke to that thing. the indian girl dated and almost married a dreadlocked african man. let me quote Quote:It is not as a big deal for a brown woman to marry a white man. In fact, it could be referred to as, ‘marrying up’ or ‘getting lucky’. I was once married to an Irishman, and suffered through, Quote:Oh, look at him. He’s just so fair. You are so lucky. You better work hard to hold on to him, or he will be whipped away. And whispers of, Quote:How did SHE get him? I had to hold back from turning these women upside down by their sari petticoats, to shake some sense into their hair sprayed heads. He was the lucky one! Though I must have not worked hard enough, because the marriage is in the past tense. Of course my grandmother did tell me when it all fell apart, Quote:How could it have worked out? He IS from a different community. ...... When in doubt, blame the colonials! It must be a hangover from a century long colonial rule. Generations were born and buried under the British Raj in India. Along with afternoon tea, they left us with the unshakable belief that White is Superior. Lighter is Superior. Ergo White tops Brown. Brown tops Black. Pardon the unfortunate puns. ...... But back to dreadlocked almost husband for a moment. The biggest thorn pricking our temporary bubble of bliss, was the accusatory glares that came from Kenyans, mostly brown. They all seemed to scream Quote:How dare you be with him – don’t you know WE don’t marry THEM. only the brave marry out! All Mushrooms are edible! Some Mushroom are only edible ONCE!
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