Murang'a wrote:AlphDoti wrote:I told some guys here that when we discussed issue with x and they said nooo they are adults, let them meet "as long there is nothing more than that". I said ok. I leave you alone.
Your wife meeting with ex?? Thats ridiculous, they can only meet bila mimi kujua. If your wife can not even let you come near those village mbochs(yet we rarely care about them) they bring to us why would you let her do that.
You will see them (the sissies) coming after my post below..... 
I always tell wazua that peace and happiness at home can only be guaranteed with strength.
Many will misunderstand me, let them be, this advice is not for them, they never listen anyway... But luckily
many will understand what I mean.
You see a man need to be man enough in order for him and the wife to have fulfilling relationship. There is so much responsibility for a man in order to keep his home "healthy". Being assertive and making rules that should not be compromised does not mean
war or
confrontation with wife. Both must be
partners with clear lines of
respect,
rules and
adherence.
There is no way you can sit back and say we are civilized, we are mature, and we are adults who know what need to be done and let your wife or husband interact with other men or women with no control.
No way!! Even if a child is involved, there must be rules.
You must put clear rules on how you or your wife relate with family, brothers, in-laws, strangers, new friends, old friends,
Xes etc.
One tip I give both men and women is;
no contact with X, no
coffee dates, no
chatting,
business, no
nothing... because it is the past and it should remain in the past. No man should
come to your house and have a leisure of drinking tea in your absence...
No compromise about this.But secular lifestyle has brought this problem. In fact on average, the statistics say that a person has
8 different sexual partners before he settles down with one
in marriage. Now, wife or husband after going through so many men or women,
is tempted to compare the spouse on matters of bedroom shame on you shame on you.
Being a sissy is loosing game. You eventually end up "not sleeping".
Ask @commando 
