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Rank: Veteran Joined: 7/5/2010 Posts: 2,061 Location: Nairobi
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Vallerrie wrote:Full disclosure, yep its me (duh) and yes he's a colleague.
@Impunity, I'm trying to get the man to like me, not rape me asi? Why would I show him the fundamendoz if he hasn't asked for 'em? Wewe unanimislead.
@AlphDoti - Thanks, solid advise. Your situation looks kinda hopeless...If he has not noticed you its cause very likely another girl has taken him ...this you can recognize immediately. Girls can tell when a jamaa digs her even if he keeps his hands off. Secondly,most jamaas I know avoid office romances. Fanya thorough research kwanza, may be if you gave us some info on the guy we can offer more focused tips 
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 7/5/2010 Posts: 2,061 Location: Nairobi
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dunkang wrote:kizee1 wrote:Vallerrie wrote:Full disclosure, yep its me (duh) and yes he's a colleague.
@Impunity, I'm trying to get the man to like me, not rape me asi? Why would I show him the fundamendoz if he hasn't asked for 'em? Wewe unanimislead.
@AlphDoti - Thanks, solid advise. doesn't hurt to be nice to him ask him out(lunch would be easy since you work together) and one day tell him you like him, has happened to me twice, one was an Asian chic both times I thought it was a prank but not so... Asian as in Hindu, Chinese, Japanese or Thailand. An Indian,  , the rest,  @Vallerrie, in the midst of a kawaida office chat, look at him in the eyes and ask, " By the way, are you married?" or " By the way, Do you have kids?" That will be enough. He most likely will want to know why you asked, and every other thing will fall in place. And i hope you are not one of the attachees in our office. Ati are you married? Thats terrible advice! He will take off like a rocket in the opposite direction. If you must approach, stalk him in non office events or surroundings
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Rank: Elder Joined: 6/2/2011 Posts: 4,824 Location: -1.2107, 36.8831
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@Quicksand, if that won't work, then she should trying being polite, even @Lolest confused it to flirting!  Receive with simplicity everything that happens to you.” ― Rashi
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Rank: Member Joined: 11/1/2012 Posts: 290
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quicksand wrote:Vallerrie wrote:Full disclosure, yep its me (duh) and yes he's a colleague.
@Impunity, I'm trying to get the man to like me, not rape me asi? Why would I show him the fundamendoz if he hasn't asked for 'em? Wewe unanimislead.
@AlphDoti - Thanks, solid advise. Your situation looks kinda hopeless...If he has not noticed you its cause very likely another girl has taken him ...this you can recognize immediately. Girls can tell when a jamaa digs her even if he keeps his hands off. Secondly,most jamaas I know avoid office romances. Fanya thorough research kwanza, may be if you gave us some info on the guy we can offer more focused tips No he has noticed me, at least I think so, coz he flirts with me every time we run into each other aaaannnddd he has this deep baritone voice like....phew! Let me not go there. Research pia nimefanya, I work in HR so best believe I know the contents of his file. Wait, I think I might be kinda crazy, something ain't right with me. Go ahead and judge, I'll allow it.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 3/18/2011 Posts: 12,069 Location: Kianjokoma
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washiku wrote:Vallerrie wrote:Based on the 'Telling her NO' thread, is it safe to assume that all guys prefer to do the chasing rather than be chased? What is a girl to do if she really really likes a guy? Just be coy and play the waiting game? Asking for a friend. No, really. This could potentially come back to bite me soooo....  Maybe that colleague of yours is a Wazuan too...Maybe, just maybe, he has already asked for advise on how to tell you NO. Just maybe kwenda huko washikoo  but you know it's possible to fail to get some hints. Zinakuwanga hukooo....
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Rank: Chief Joined: 5/9/2007 Posts: 13,095
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Lolest! wrote:washiku wrote:Vallerrie wrote:Based on the 'Telling her NO' thread, is it safe to assume that all guys prefer to do the chasing rather than be chased? What is a girl to do if she really really likes a guy? Just be coy and play the waiting game? Asking for a friend. No, really. This could potentially come back to bite me soooo.... Maybe that colleague of yours is a Wazuan too...Maybe, just maybe, he has already asked for advise on how to tell you NO. Just maybe kwenda huko washikoo but you know it's possible to fail to get some hints. Zinakuwanga hukooo.... I am also doubting the hints direction. No wonder our days when we could send letters were better. She would have written a beautiful letter and put it at his desk hoping for the best.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 6/20/2008 Posts: 6,275 Location: Kenya
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@vallarie I'm sure you know here in Wazua we've all kinds if people. And based on maturity, they'll give you different kinds of advice. I want you to consider advices from only those who are married, you can tell from their advice. Some of these young boys are still in worlds of looking at a woman as an airport. If you really believe this guy is mature, and he's reliable as a husband, don't be afraid. I like @dunkard advice; look him in the eye and ask direct question like "are you married"? He'll be hit by wave which if he's available will start making him think about you everyday until he comes asking you for a date. Then when he opens up, tell him the truth, that you like him. When he asks you to be the one, tell him you're Interrsted in a relationship that will lead to marriage. Let the guy know you're not in this for sex, and you want to be treats like a lady even if you proposed.
If this works, you'll be laughing together remembering how it was opening up about your feelings! Have you read that story about Khadijah?
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 10/25/2007 Posts: 1,574
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Vallerrie wrote:quicksand wrote:Vallerrie wrote:Full disclosure, yep its me (duh) and yes he's a colleague.
@Impunity, I'm trying to get the man to like me, not rape me asi? Why would I show him the fundamendoz if he hasn't asked for 'em? Wewe unanimislead.
@AlphDoti - Thanks, solid advise. Your situation looks kinda hopeless...If he has not noticed you its cause very likely another girl has taken him ...this you can recognize immediately. Girls can tell when a jamaa digs her even if he keeps his hands off. Secondly,most jamaas I know avoid office romances. Fanya thorough research kwanza, may be if you gave us some info on the guy we can offer more focused tips No he has noticed me, at least I think so, coz he flirts with me every time we run into each other aaaannnddd he has this deep baritone voice like....phew! Let me not go there. Research pia nimefanya, I work in HR so best believe I know the contents of his file. Wait, I think I might be kinda crazy, something ain't right with me. Go ahead and judge, I'll allow it. If he's your boss RUN! Else, wait for that company party or team building event. He'll be less formal, let his guard down and you can approach him with all your questions. If it's an event out of town, it would be a good chance to sample the goods and decide if it is worth dating him. Or, be friendly with the other ladies in the office who have been around longer than you have. There's always juicy office gossip going round e.g. the day a sugar mummy dropped him off to work in the morning etc. Seriously, just ask him out for coffee. No harm. Set out to correct the world's wrongs and you will most certainly wind up adding to them.
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 11/15/2012 Posts: 1,110
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Vallerrie wrote:quicksand wrote:Vallerrie wrote:Full disclosure, yep its me (duh) and yes he's a colleague.
@Impunity, I'm trying to get the man to like me, not rape me asi? Why would I show him the fundamendoz if he hasn't asked for 'em? Wewe unanimislead.
@AlphDoti - Thanks, solid advise. Your situation looks kinda hopeless...If he has not noticed you its cause very likely another girl has taken him ...this you can recognize immediately. Girls can tell when a jamaa digs her even if he keeps his hands off. Secondly,most jamaas I know avoid office romances. Fanya thorough research kwanza, may be if you gave us some info on the guy we can offer more focused tips No he has noticed me, at least I think so, coz he flirts with me every time we run into each other aaaannnddd he has this deep baritone voice like....phew! Let me not go there. Research pia nimefanya, I work in HR so best believe I know the contents of his file. Wait, I think I might be kinda crazy, something ain't right with me. Go ahead and judge, I'll allow it. Use rat's bite and blow approach. This is how it works:
- Day 1 ... Assume it's on a Monday. You're dressed sawasawa and you feel sexy about yourself. Show him total interest...like drop by his desk three times that day... asking funny questions about how he spent his weekend blah blah
- Day 2 ... Assume it's on Tuesday. It's almost lunch hour, you're dressed sawasawa and you feel damn sexy. Drop by his desk, say you just wanted to check on him and propose to take him out for lunch.
- Day 3... Assume it's on Thursday. Take the flirtation a notch higher... He might ask what you doing for the weekend and stuff.. that's when you gain control..say you had plans maybe day X.
Caution: Don't chase him. Lead him to chase you. Men love to chose. Make him feel like he's the one pursuing you and not the other way round. Become too available and he'll hate you. Become too rigid and he'll become bored. You might need to watch "Three Can Play that Game." It'll give invaluable tips. Live Full Die Empty - Les Brown.
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Rank: User Joined: 8/15/2013 Posts: 13,237 Location: Vacuum
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AlphDoti wrote:@vallarie I'm sure you know here in Wazua we've all kinds if people. And based on maturity, they'll give you different kinds of advice. I want you to consider advices from only those who are married, you can tell from their advice. Some of these young boys are still in worlds of looking at a woman as an airport. If you really believe this guy is mature, and he's reliable as a husband, don't be afraid. I like @dunkard advice; look him in the eye and ask direct question like "are you married"? He'll be hit by wave which if he's available will start making him think about you everyday until he comes asking you for a date. Then when he opens up, tell him the truth, that you like him. When he asks you to be the one, tell him you're Interrsted in a relationship that will lead to marriage. Let the guy know you're not in this for sex, and you want to be treats like a lady even if you proposed.
If this works, you'll be laughing together remembering how it was opening up about your feelings! Have you read that story about Khadijah? Who told you that Vallerrie is not in for sex If Obiero did it, Who Am I?
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