Requires a lot of strength and courage than you can ever imagine, figure this, you have been married for like 10 years, then the drama starts.

Involves too many things and either way you lose whether you decide to stay or decide to leave.

I always tell my male friends, if they must cheat, tafadhali heshimu mama, make sure she doesn't know, otherwise inakuwa madharau.
And i advice my female friends not to dig, seek and you will find, unless you are willing to act on what you find.

Hope we are not being used for a radio show or a research or blog fulani.

As usual, you are ever so very right.

However:


Serial women batterers (sp) are in my book terrorists and need no negotiating with.

In this case, I strongly feel that this "man" needs a bullet in the knee to come to his senses and therefore seek help from relevant professionals.

The best bullet in this situation is for him to find the house empty. No furniture, no cutlery, no home theater, no curtains, no cockroaches. Best of all, no "woman" to batter, no children to lord over.

Might work. Will work.

I have heard narratives of medics who have to administer Electrical Cardioversion aka defibrillation. They crank it all the way up to the maximum as necessary then they give the first shock. Reason being they observed that starting with the lower charge increases 'resistance'. So they give the best shot at the first shot.

But what do I know? Except that some 'shock' is sometimes necessary to 'convert' a 'hard heart'.

...not very hard to spot a con 20 km away. Wait to see the story in one of the mainstream newspapers...