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marine
#1 Posted : Wednesday, November 04, 2009 6:04:00 AM
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After several months of denials,she finally opened up. Apparently she moved on. I have finally had to let go and move on but it’s not as easy. Not when you were used to someone by your side. I have learnt my lessons and will take them with me to the next level. I am not planning on staying single so fellow Skerians,that sister,cousin,colleague,friend who is single and ready to settle down,help out a brother and give referrals. winsleynn@gmail.com. God Bless.



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Wendz
#2 Posted : Wednesday, November 04, 2009 6:41:00 AM
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you dont want to give yourself time to heal? It might affect how you relate in the next relationship.

Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want.

Fundaah
#3 Posted : Wednesday, November 04, 2009 6:49:00 AM
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Pondi would tell you.....' clearly dispay your payslip'........but I tell you that you are looking in the wrong place......go to the place you frequent ...if you go to church....join the choir or any youth group in the church and Im sure you will spot a girl who will sweep your heart and marry....... If you are a pub guy...I have no comment

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marine
#4 Posted : Wednesday, November 04, 2009 6:51:00 AM
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@Wendz

I have learnt a lot from my previous relationship and i am preparing to settle down. I am in the right frame of mind.


The mind is everything. What you think you become
Wendz
#5 Posted : Wednesday, November 04, 2009 7:08:00 AM
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@Marine

i do understand. but sometimes,when we are right from a relationship,we tend to want to 'forget' about it as quickly as possible because we have been hurt and 'move on' at any cost...... especially if the other person left you for someone else and are ready to settle down - we do not want to be seen to be 'left' behind. While it is very important to move on after a break up,getting into a relationship immediately after tends to be disastrous. this is because you will be in such a hurry that you will not take your time to know the next person well and to avoid instances that led to your previous break-up in the first place.

If you broke up very recently,you could be looking for a rebound relationship which will just mask the pain you are going through. I would think the most important thing is to heal from the break up before you get into another serious relationship. Your need to move on and hence a quick fix relationship is a misguided feeling that you are ready to take up a long term serious relationship that will lead to settling down with someone. You would rather be alone than settle down with the wrong person.

I feel your pain though but my advise would be,heal first before getting into a serious relationship. it might end up being more painful than what you are going through now especially if it comes when kids are involved. But that is my opinion.

Experience is what you get when you don't get what you want.

akowally
#6 Posted : Wednesday, November 04, 2009 10:36:00 AM
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You need to find yourself first before looking for someone else.....otherwise you might end up deeply hurting an innocent kenyan lady

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#7 Posted : Wednesday, November 04, 2009 10:49:00 AM
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You have already met the one you will settle down with. She is the neighbour you grew up with and have never thought of her that way.
marine
#8 Posted : Wednesday, November 04, 2009 12:23:00 PM
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@GG,

I moved neighbourhood so often i can't hardly remember most of my neighbours but thanks.

@Fundah,

Now who is this Pondi. Is she/he a relationship expert or something? And with no pun intended,are you a Chic or a Jamaa?






The mind is everything. What you think you become
new.member
#9 Posted : Wednesday, November 04, 2009 12:28:00 PM
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@marine,having been in your shoes,lemme say i can feel you.But in all honesty,i agree with what Wendz is saying.You need to accept the reality and heal.I cried like a baby and thank God who gave me the ability to forget after three month.Am now concentrating on the growing baby busy wondering how my delivery will be since this gonna be baby #1 at early 30s,i hear guyz saying its not easy.

Can you imagine if you meet a lady like me now who is a wounded lion before you recover from the hurt????????


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willin2learn
#10 Posted : Wednesday, November 04, 2009 2:05:00 PM
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Pole man but this site won't help your course. May be you should consult a certain Kongowea and find out how he faired. Wendz has given what i believe is the best advise so far. Just relax and take things slowly.

forewarned is forearmed
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