I've been thinking about @commando's incident and realized how much responsibility for a man to keep his home healthy in leadership.

I always tell wazua that peace and happiness at home can only be guaranteed with strength. Many will misunderstand this, but luckily many will understand what I mean.

With responsibility, facing 'dangerous' scenarios from both relatives, friends, and now X, a man need to be man enough. Being a true head of the family, by being assertive and making rules that should not be compromised does not mean war or confrontation with wife. Both must be partners with clear lines of respect, rules and adherence. There is no way you can sit back and say we are civilized, we are mature, and we are adults who know what need to be done.

No way!!

You must put clear rules on how you or your wife relate with family, brothers, inlaws, strangers, new friends, old friends, Xes etc.

One tip I give both men and women is; no contact with X, no coffee dates, no chatting, business, no nothing... it is past and it should remain there. No man should come to your house and have a leisure of drinking tea in your absence...

No compromise about this.

This is the problem with secular lifestyle where on average, the statistics say that a person has 8 different sexual partners before he settles down with one. Now, wife or husband has a lot of comparison to do on matters of bedroom

The women need strong men who can lead, who can take control. Being a sissy is loosing game. You eventually end "not sleeping"

Kweli you were the one mandated to start the story. You know the story is fake so why open another thread to push the agenda?

after going through that long thread, I cant see why the guy is being referred to as a sissy. He DID NOT allow the woman to chat with the x and has no proof of cheating!