@tycho, am not sure you are a parent, i am one, and whoever i parent even for a day (read nieces, nephews and younger cousins), there will always be rules of the day, my child goes to a school where the teachers spank them, ofcourse it will not be the same as what i went through but i dont mind it, and i have rules and regulations in my house, the difference between my spanking my child and my mum spanking me is, the child knows beforehand what to expect if she broke any of the rules set, and i like the fact that i dont have to wait to discover a mistake happened, it is reported the moment i walk through the door, it might sound military style but kids need a leash, you can choose to let yours free.
Am way over 18 but i have never sipped alcohol in my mum's house, its a rule and everyone follows it so as long as that child is my responsibility, certain things will happen my way.
My mum once spanked me for something i didnt do, and its only recently she apologized, does that mean i love her less, if anything when one becomes a parent you realize how hard it was for your parents, raising five kids, having a full-time job, rearing chicken, cows and having a mini garden.
Now you want to tell me having lots of money, getting your child a driver to drop her/him at Galleria/TRM with a bundle of money to go hang out with friends, that's showing love to your children?? Thats the freedom?
I cannot tell how bhang looks like at my age, my niece just joined campus and her roommates smoke it, yes times have really changed, who changed them?
I hear 'kwa akina nani wanakubaliwa kufanya hivi na vile' and my response has always been, 'you can go live with akina nani'
I will not expose my child to nonsense in the name of comformity, and this business of wanting to fit in is what makes those kids do stupid things, for instance how do parents dress nowadays?

As for @tycho comparing this to me trying to control my periods is insane, those are kids for heaven's sake. I worry for those generations i pray for my kids, and honestly i encourage people not to have children if one cannot be there for them physically.

Where is the like button when you need it!!

God have mercy.