Users are married, instead of usering Admin will colloborate with the wives to withdraw your landing rights @Magigi @ Jaggernaut.

Sema Shika Adabu.

There is that tale about the hare and the hyena whereby one day they agreed to teach their wives a lesson, but when the hyena was busy beating up the wife, the hare was busy hitting a drum and laughing at his friend. So kula na macho peke yake, not what is normally said around here. Don't visit the fish parlours just because someone mentioned it here.

So kula na macho, is a virtue? And one that keeps your marriage happy?

And as the one urging for judgment when reading about marriage, shouldn't you help us exercise judgment since we are reading you?

Then if you're happily married shouldn't others find transferable lessons from you?

Yes. Am your friend. Please help me out.

Each relationship is unique in its own way, and i don't think there's a standard manual on how to be happily married. It takes alot of work and effort by the couple, since marriage is a deep and exclusive relationship between two willing participants. And that's why it's always difficult for 3rd parties eg a chief, parent, pastor, magistrate, elders etc to sort a couple's marriage issues, because you can not force a couple to love, respect and be faithful to each other, it has to come from their hearts. However having said that, those 3 items i.e love, respect and fidelity are key ingredients for a successful marriage.

And being married doesn't mean that one has to live in a cocoon and refuse to participate in fish threads.