.....why the bile on men, just advice both man and woman!!!

I think the @segemia's neighbour knew what he was talking about on issues electricity. This is the reason...

Consider his was an average home in the maisonnette house category from what segemia told us...

Monthly power consumption by the large fridge (150watts) = 150w x 24h x 30days/1000 = 108KWH

Monthly power consumption by the 42" TV set (300watts) assuming the maid switches it on at 6:00am in the morning and switched off at 11:00pm at night = 300w x 17h x 30days/1000 = 153KWH

Monthly power consumption by the deep freezer (180watts) = 180w x 24h x 30days/1000 = 129.6KWH

Monthly power consumption by the Instantaneous water heaters (showers) (4000watts) assuming there are 4 showers and each shower is used for 30min per day = 4000w x 4 x 0.5h x 30days/1000 = 240KWH

Monthly power consumption by the microwave unit (4500watts) assuming it is used for 30min per day minimum = 4500w x 0.5h x 30days/1000 = 67.5KWH

Monthly power consumption by the electric kettle (2500watts) assuming it is used for a maximum of 1 hour per day boiling water = 2500w x 1h x 30days/1000 = 75KWH

Total Power consumed by the above appliances = 108 + 153 + 129.6 + 240 + 67.5 + 75 = 773.1KWH

The electricity Bill:

Fixed charge.....................kshs 120.00

Consumption....................kshs 8,527.42

Fuel cost charge (600 cpsKWH)..kshs 4,638.60

Forex Adj. (140 ctspKWH).......kshs 1,082.34

Inflation Adj. (25ctsPKWH).......kshs 193.28

ERC Levy (3 ctspKWH)..............kshs 23.19

REP Levy (5%)....................kshs 426.37

VAT 16%........................kshs 2,298.94

Total.................... kshs 17,310.14

This does not include power consumed by occassional cooking using electricity, lighting, connected radios and dvd players, computers etc...

Continued....

The message had been sent at around 5:00am in the morning according to the man. The man called me again at around 12:00pm (midday) and asked if his wife had been seen anywhere near his house. I told him that i would have to call my home and confirm, which I did. Nobody had seen the lady.

I decided to ask the man what that was all about at that time. He told me that his wife had sent him another similar message that she had sent earlier in the morning and in addition to that she had already indicated other things that needed to be bought for the children, school uniform, shoes, track suits, stockings, books etc. The man said that he did not respond.

Later in the evening the man called and told me that his wife called, but instead of ignoring the phone he pressed "reject" button.

5th January 2014, the man called me at around 8:00am in the morning and asked me if I had noticed anything or anybody within his home stead to which I said no. I asked him why. He told me that his wife's elder sister had called him at around 6:00am and told him she had heard that he had chased away her sister (the wife) and locked the house. He had told the sister in law that that was not a subject to be discussed over the phone and besides it was his business and not hers. Here the man laughed so loudly and at the end of it all he said "Segemia! I think I am now beginning to enjoy the show!"

At around 2:00pm the man called me and informed me that the elder sister had called again and told him that she wanted her sister alive and that if anything happened to her he was going to be held squarely responsible. The man told me that he told her to go and search for her sister and that she should not bother him over his wife's whereabouts. At that point in time, he had disconnected the call.

At around 7:00pm the man called me and told me that an elder brother to the wife had called him, but deliberately refused to receive the call. At midnight another message from the wife demanding school fees from him, which again he ignored.

8th January 2014, at around 10:00am in the morning, the man called me and told me that the mother in law had called him wanting to know the whereabouts of her daughter. The man had told her that he did not know, to which the mother advised him to go and report to the police station as a missing person. The man had told the mother in law that if there was any reporting that was going to be done to the authorities, it was not him who was going to do that.

At 8:00pm at night, I was in a local pub when my phone rung. The number was not familiar and I had never seen it before. I answered and heard a familiar man's voice on the other end. The man introduced himself as the father in law to my neighbour and we had a casual talk. He just wanted to know if after being friends and neighbours for all that time whether I had ever witnessed any physical confrontation or words throwing or shouting between his errant children to which I answered no. He also wanted to know when was the last time I saw her daughter to which I told him. A little bit more conversation, we were done and we disconnected the calls. I, however, wondered so much why this old man called me and who gave him my number.

At 9:00pm in the evening I tried calling my neighbour but the answer was "The number that you are trying to call has been switched off"

9th January 2014, at around mid day I tried calling the neighbour, but I got the same response, "The number that you are trying to call has been switched off". Tried calling later a couple of times, nothing did..the same message. Anxiety was building up really fast!

10th January 2014, tried calling the man, but kept receiving the same message. At 8:30pm in the evening the man called and told me that he had deliberately switched off the phone so that the in laws do not bother him as they were not giving him a break. I told him about his father in law's call previously and details of the discussions. He laughed out heartily and said that their actions pointed to the fact that they were pressurising him to go pick his family. According to the man, the in laws knew where his wife was and they wanted to create a scenario whereby the man would end up being the guilty party, so he was going to kaa ngumu!!!

To me this whole saga has already degenerated into a rat race and everybody seems to be kujivichiana, and I am being sucked in slooowly!!! If you were me what would you do under the circumstances????

Stay tuned folks.

I decided to ask the man what that was all about at that time. He told me that his wife had sent him another similar message that she had sent earlier in the morning and in addition to that she had already indicated other things that needed to be bought for the children, school uniform, shoes, track suits, stockings, books etc. The man said that he did not respond.

Later in the evening the man called and told me that his wife called, but instead of ignoring the phone he pressed "reject" button.

5th January 2014, the man called me at around 8:00am in the morning and asked me if I had noticed anything or anybody within his home stead to which I said no. I asked him why. He told me that his wife's elder sister had called him at around 6:00am and told him she had heard that he had chased away her sister (the wife) and locked the house. He had told the sister in law that that was not a subject to be discussed over the phone and besides it was his business and not hers. Here the man laughed so loudly and at the end of it all he said "Segemia! I think I am now beginning to enjoy the show!"....

Some interesting event around my neighbourhood spanning two months.

An immediate neighbour of mine left for work in Eldoret on 28th November 2013. The wife works in Nairobi and employed by a certain oil company. They have two children aged about 10 and 8 years.

Just before the husband left, he had told me that they had a conflict with mama watoto two days earlier and they were not in talking terms at the time. So he was not even escorted by his wife and therefore he had called on me to help him carry his luggage.

5th December 2013, at about 10:00PM, at night, as I was returning home from the evening activities, I noted that the gate to the neighbours compound was fully wide open and only the security lights were on. So, I imagined that the wife to the neighbour may have just driven in and was preparing to lock the gate and therefore I proceeded to mine.

The following day, I was late for work and I was not able to notice anything much in my surrounding as i sped off to the office. At midnight as I was drifting towards home I met a fully closed body 3.3 canter lorry going in the opposite direction and it almost hit my car. The driver must have been high on something, so I cursed him a million times and moved on.

Twenty minutes later, I was passing by my neighbours gate which this time it was not only wide open, but the security lights were off while internal lights were on. To me this was strange because it was coincidental that two times, the lady was just ahead of me in getting to her home just as I was doing to mine. It had never happened before!

I packed the car by the gate, got out and pressed the bell switch. I heard it buzzing inside the house but nobody came out, so I decided to enter the compound and went to the main entrance. The door was wide open and when I stepped in, the sight of an empty sitting room baffled me. I went to the kitchen cautiously...empty too, except a full stinking dustbin. Went to the bedrooms. They were very empty except one which had two dolls and a child's left foot shoe. All the wardrobes were wide open and empty too.

I switched off the internal lights and switched on the security ones, closed the doors behind me and went out of the house. I closed the gate and as I entered my car, I knew everything was wrong in that homestead and I thought of that canter vehicle, so when I packed inside my own compound I called the man. He was asleep and as he talked he was still sleepy until I asked him why he decided to move from his own house that he had built and had not bothered to inform his neighbours. The five minutes silence that followed clearly confirmed that a bombshell had been dropped. In a composed speech, the man told me that he had not moved and neither had they discussed any thing about moving from the property with his wife. He told me to take care of the house and lock the gates with a padlock, which I did, and said that in two days time (when he organised for an emergency leave of absence from work) he would be coming to Nairobi.

9th December 2013 the man came to Nairobi and we linked up at about 6:00 in the evening. We went straight to home, got the keys to his homestead which were in my custody, and we went to his house. We stepped into the sitting room and what the man saw, I could tell as I looked into his face. He leaned with his hands onto one of the walls (where the 42" television used to be) speechless with his head between the hands and looked down onto the floor. I saw a drop of tear falling down and hit the floor. After ten minutes he lifted his head up and what I saw was very infuriated face with trucks of tears from the eyes to the chicks where they dropped off. He told me to take him to the upper floors. From there, we went "in detail" to the rest of the homestead and compound and all that time he was quiet and composed.

As we closed the gate, the only thing that the man could say was "Thank you Segemia. Thank you very much. You know what Segemia, I really don't quite understand what it is that the women want from men and they (women) do not tell the men". We talked at length and eventually the man dropped a bombshell...that he was going to sell the house since after all the title deed was in his name and he was the one who bought the plot with his own money. After so much discussion, the man clearly understood that his wife may never have had any attachment to that house but his children would need it in future. Besides, the wife was probably trying to drive a point by hitting the man where it pains most. He abandoned the idea of selling the house, but told me that he would take action which he did not specify. Three days later he went to his village home to visit his parents and a week later he called me from Eldoret.

4th January 2014, the man called me from Eldoret and told me that his wife sent him a message asking him for money to pay the children's school fees, but he ignored, arguing that she should only demand school fees for the children when he is seeing them life life and in his own house. He also asked if his wife had been seen around the property and I told him no...

For all that time that I have known this man (about 20 years), right now he does not seem like himself and he needs a lot of help. Please advise.

As of now if you were that man what would you do after learning what has happened and after the new development?

Stay tuned folks, the ugly juicy part is coming!.