@Fancyface
Sweetheart,Am sooo sorry you have to undergo such trauma froma man who's otherwise supposed to Love and treasure you all the days of your life. Most people,unless if they have ever undergone verbal abuse do not understand its impact. But my dear,I do. A few years ago,i watched a best friend slowly get eaten away by the stresses of an abusive spouse. I honestly couldnt understand at first the pain she was going through..and she stayed in that marriage 'For the sake of her kids' and acted calm everytime the hubby got started with his abuses. We tried to encourage relatives,family members,church..etc to intervene. but all in vain! The man would change for a week and go back to his horrible abuses thereafter. The older son was getting affected and kept asking 'Kwanini Daddy hutukana Mum hivyo?' and it was very embarassing when the situation affected his perfomance in school and his teachers also intervened. The boy was even asking his classmates if their Dads abuse their Mums and threaten to beat them up!
Anyway,To cut the long story short...The lady got PG during one of those lovey dovey rebound sessions,and life was terrible for her,the man became more abusive and during her 4th month...he beat her up so badly,she almost lost her life! She miscarriaged and was badly hurt..not to mention deeply traumatized. She left that bugger and lives on her own now with her two lovely kids.
Abuse starts polepole and degenarates into horrible things later on. Act before it's too late. You and your kids shouldnt suffer. Try and get the your hubby some proffesional help..If it doesnt work ama he's hesitant to take it on..then separate kidogo for him to decide what he wants in life,and for the kids to experience some peace in life.
Fancyface,Dont wait for it to get physical. That man is sick and needs help ASAP!
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