@tycho, first before I say anything, I must commend (is it comment or commend?) you for your manner of writing of late, I commend you for trying to write in language that I (and some of us) can understand.
Secondly, it's a good thing @tycho what you feel. It only means you're absolutely normal. I mentioned in another thread that this urge is natural. Whatever the urge is... sex and sexuality etc that is natural.
Now, the dilemma. Please don't allow the dilemma to misguide you. Finding sexual attraction in everybody, including men and women is unnatural manifestation of a natural urge.
Some people might cheat you that this is beyond your control. Of course, I cannot go to biological arguments because I'm not an expert in it. But I know one thing; every one of us has temptation and desires that sometimes are harmful to us. Speaking from the point of view of Islam, my religion tells us that one of the job of the religion is to pretect us from those temptations that would harm us.
I gave an example yesterday: Just like you @tycho, I'm a man and I have no shame in admitting that as a man I'm attracted to beautiful women. This is part and parcel of being a man. I'm sure big percentage of our fellow men in Wazua agree that a beautiful woman has effects on us. Now, does that justify me lusting after every beautiful woman on earth? Does that justify me saying you know what, I can't help it?
Should I go for every lady that I see beautiful? Would anybody agree to such type of logic?
I gave abother example about the kleptomania, those people with a recurrent urge to steal, they steal without regard for need or profit. One of them will say, I have plenty of money, but as I walk on the street and I see stuff on that I can put in my pocket, there is this urge inside me I cna't help it, I just want to take it and steal it. What if he says this in a court of law and the judge says well it is okay God created you to be a kleptomaniac so go ahead.
Similarly to another example: what if a murderer says I can't help it. This urge is coming to me and I just want to kill people. Of course I'm not equating murder to your "urge to make love", but what if you say you can't help it.
The answer is, no you can help it. The urge might be beyond your control but you can cater to it by blocking it. Or channeling it in a permissible manner.
So back to my example, if I have a lust for a woman who is not permissible to me to lust after, well then I have to control the urge. And I have to find happiness within the confirn of marriage. And thats what my religions tells us to do.
Similarly, if you @tycho feels the lust after everybody on the street, you have one thing to do. Minimise this urge and find happiness in women (find one of them who pleases you and marry), which is possible and it has been done.
You have to battle that urge just like I and other men have to battle urges for women that are not allowed for me. Just like the kleptomaniacs have to battle urges to steal. Just like the alcoholic when he passes by some alcohol and his doctor has told him not to drink, he remembers how alcohol tastes.
Just like a drug addict. Just because you have the urge, does not justify manifestation of that urge.
However, feeling love for everybody you see does not disqualify you from being a good person. You can be a good person and admire everybody. But I will tell you that if you were a Muslim, you would be doing immoral thing by looking women who are not wives and lusting after them.
I apologize if I missunderstood you. I apologize if a judged you.