I join those who stand for determination on case by case........and this is why.Most men run away from the said single women with kids the moment they realise they are pregnant........It's an old known thing and the likes of TRS refer to this as 'jumping'.Suppose the ladies had a way of running away from us and leaving behind each kid we father?.Many men would need a children's home in their compound....At least in most cases,the ladies limit the kids to no more than one....!!..How many men can say this for dead?........and before we judge our sisters,let's ask ourselves this question then.How many ladies would marry a single man with kids.....?...Many kids..??.....while at it,we would wish to marry gals who have never been ploughed.......Our gals to,wish to marry men who have never ploughed......Can sk dudes stand and let's get a count.Am obviously out...! Yombo dhier....!!

the topic and some of the answers belong to 1971.....Ladies,if you find a man who cannot look at your kids without thinking of the other guy,or asking for a dna test,that is as insecure a man as you will ever find.....Bure kabisa and he's probably dogging you and the guilt is killing him......Every case is different and men forget that after having a child,the woman is more worried about the 'ka-man' than the other way round......I know of ladies who use this scenario to weed out the useless,insecure men who are looking for TRS's 'virgin land to plough'...haha

A good topic.My opinion no matter what,athorough case by case analysis is important. A good example is that of a lady who has been over & about will men from her childhood and gets a mr.xx who she now needs to settle dowm with in life.Of course such a gal may have all the skills to make sure that she dont get a child .To add salt to the injury,she goes a head and fake virginity or whatever you can call it.So you meet her and you are over the moon.ONE OUT OF A BILLION but in real sence...............If by any chance a dude can come to know this,that will be the end of trust.You feel deceived,ma? But here is a young gal who happen to have fallen into trap.Personaly i do advise ladies that having a child with some one should not be a reason to force yourself into marriage if by anychance the dude does not love you.Things do happen and sometimes a child is born out of lust and not love.Such a gal should just take care of the baby and with time she will finally meet the man of herlife.I really respect such ladies so much since its not an easy job. The case differs for a lady with ababy as a result of marriage.Whether its a church wedding or just a traditional marriage and the man is still a live,such should be avoided at all cost but if you dont,please be ready to pay the price. In a nutshell,take time and learn someone b4 making your decision.A good wife comes from the Lord.Remember a man/lady can be virgin for real but you never know what might happen after marriage.Pray and ask God for direction. Without Holiness no man shall see God.Dear God,mould me to be a vessel of honour at this End times,to remain Obedient to your Word in all situations.Amen!

@Nanfor..i honestly don think this topic belongs in the 70's....am sure most guys find the topic interesting...besides,these are issues probably most of us have not had a chance to discuss....so..keep em coming... @MR.Tea,i agree,someone who keeps so worried bout ur baby may just not be ready for a serious relationship....the earlier the chic juas,...we call it running for the hills?yeah...dat one! @Ngwono.....well said all the way....Agood man or woman comes from the lord...someone needs to pray WIN WIN SITUATION

sasa wewe utanunua jembe... ili upalilie shamba iliyo na mavuno...??? sa laa leeee..... makuu haya..... what kind of 'standing men'.......are we.....??? i would rather try the unploughed land first... than the tested one..... I'm the real Massey F.....shut your mouth