Sex is a beautiful thing. Sex is not sin. Sex is not dirty. Girls mature at different ages, most of them before the age of 18 so there is nothing magical about the number 18. Many successful women had children before they were 18. Ellen Sirleaf Johnson (President of Liberia) was married when she was 17, Mary mother of Jesus was probably between 12 and 14 when she had baby Jesus.

The Parents ranting about the insecurity of their girls is a testament to how lowly they think of their own daughters. They do not approve of the raging hormones within the girls blood. They deny and criminalise the attraction the girl feels towards boys and the desire to have sex. It is this suppression of expression of what they feel within that creates this paranoia.


Sex is a dirty word, a dirty desire that needs to be suppressed. My take on this issue is the opposite, Sex is beautiful, an awakening of the beautiful creative force within us and it should be welcomed and celebrated. Can it have disastrous consequences? Absolutely!! So we educate the girls. Let your daughter know all consequences of unprotected sex and drinking and being in the wrong company and the heartaches of breakups and infatuations. But after you have done this TRUST her to make the right choices for herself and don't for heavens sake make her feel guilty of having sexual desires. If she chooses to sleep with her teachers or the watchman or the boys in the football team, for as long as she makes the choice of her own free will, it is OK. Nothing wrong with that at all. Talk to and educate your girls and then let them be.