CLK wrote:AlphDoti wrote:CLK wrote:Talk to anyone who belongs to a polygamous family, either one of the wives, children or even the man himself. The following is likely the case.
1. Mistreated kids
2. Jealousy and envy between the step families especially where its two wives.
3, Reduced quality of life, read having to fend for more mouths or negligence altogether.
4. Man worrying if any of the wives could poison him.
5. Last but no least, MOST polygamous men end up very lonely in old-age, wives don't care since they hold grudges from the day he married the second wife and the day he went back to the first wife etc, children have learned to survive without his support and are always protective of their mums very few accord them the respect they deserve and wait for him to die so they can fight over his property assets.
Women do not like sharing, hata mpango wa kando pray you leave your wife for them, only they cannot say it, unless they are there for the money.
Otherwise half the time, everyone accepts and moves on.
As someone said, its all about Greed, and we know this one has no end, you look back a few years down the road and wish you can undo so decisions.
First, it is funny how those who are not in this institution frown at itMost of them only know failed polygamous marriages. Most of them are not even married (
not talking about you CLK, I know you're married 
), and still looking but will be comfortable being a mistress.
I myself is from familywhose grandfather (my late grand-dad) had four wives. For your information,
all my uncles and aunties went to school and worked in good jobs, most of them are now retired.
And if you're wonderingall the sibblings grew up close and until now the families still do things together.
Many people cannot tell which child is from which mother, espeially the men, coz they resemble my grand father.
So they way to raise a family is personal choiceThere are even children from monogamous families who are mistreated.
You see polygamy is there to solve many social issuesIncluding prostitution, inbalanced sexual needs in relationships.
It is a fact that almost all men liketo have as many female partners as possible.
They have that natural instinct to be with many women.
If we just rubbish it because of some so-called assumed likely cases, we end up creating problems, including unfaithfulness, because men,
generally speaking, will still go out to satisfy that desire to be with many women.
Why not give the men the official opportunity to do what they enjoy doing in safe way as long as he can afford.
If you feel this is for you, then keep off There are men who want one woman.
The same way there are men who don't even want even a woman!
Don't bad mouth something just because it does not suit you.
Slept my mind, i needed to put a disclaimer about Muslims, i know it would work since it is expected a husband will at some point marry three more and this is what women Muslim sign up for. However its different for Christians, who will take the vows in church and do the exact opposite, resulting in resentful wives since this is not what they signed for.
And NO, i am not married, very very single, umefikisha mwisho, ama naweza kuwa number four??
Lady @CLK, I still have vacancies. Maybe a circumstance will present itself that will make me have need for another wife. Allah knows best.
But again, I know it's your wish to settle down with a manA responsible man. I think you're not a young girl in her twenties.
You need to think of hooking up with a man who can marry you and make you a wife.
It does not matter whether he's married or not.
But he should take responsibility.
I know you want to reply and write a lot to counter this proposal. But wait one moment...
At age above 30A lady cannot lie to us that they've never fornicated (of course there are a few who're still virgins at this age).
But most above this age have had a thing with someone who has wife already.
I know they must have felt guiltyThey don't have to continue feeling like that.
I know getting a single guy nowadays is very hard.
Again they may not want to marry young men who are less mature than them.
If you're a christian see what God says about BASTARD childrenGod has condemned having children outside marriage.
God in the Bible has allowed polygamy.
So fear God and not man. Don't be victim of Western culture.
See it for yourself:Hebrews 13:4"Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.Deuteronomy 23:2"No one born of a forbidden union may enter the assembly of the Lord. Even to the tenth generation, none of his descendants may enter the assembly of the Lord. Jesus (peace be upon him) is reminding youthose who want to say this is in the old. Jesus (pbuh) is referring you to the scritpures that came before Injeel.
Matthew 5:27-28"You have heard that it was said, ‘You shall not commit adultery.’ But I say to you that everyone who looks at a woman with lustful intent has already committed adultery with her in his heart.Matthew 19:4-6He answered, "Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female..."God already laid down the lawand very few people in the Christian world today abide by these laws!!!!
These Christians now say Gods are actually three, they have trinity!!!!
Exodus 20:1-26And God spoke all these words, saying, "I am the Lord your God, who brought you out of the land of Egypt, out of the house of slavery. “You shall have
no other gods before me. “You shall not make for yourself a
carved image, or any likeness of anything that is
in heaven above, or that is in the earth beneath, or that is
in the water under the earth. You shall not bow down to them or serve them, for..."
Who cheated you that divorce is not allowed!!!!Deuteronomy 24:1-4
"When a man takes a wife and marries her, if then she finds no favor in his eyes because he has found some indecency in her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce and puts it in her hand and sends her out of his house, and she departs out of his house..."