@pavlov

I hear and feel you bro. You sound young; you only have one child. What you are going through is what very many people are going through and you are not alone. My small piece of brain tells me that you actually needs to divorce. Your wife is not the problem. You are actually the problem. First,you compromised and paged the gal. She brought the fruit of your labour to your store. So take care of it. 2ndly,you fear to face a problem that you are well aware of. People face difficulties of every kind. A successful man,faces the problem and fights it off. Dont shy away and look aside. Kick offs and beer can not solve your problem. You alone can solve it. This is what makes me think that the lady got an inadequate man in her life. COMPANIONSHIP is the key in marriages. All other things are secondary.
In so doing,I think your wife needs to trace you out when you are committing adultery and use that evidence to divorce you once and for all.
If you are seeking a long term solution,it all starts with you. Look at your confession and start by running away from bad behaviour. Once you do it for yourself,it will be much easier to influence your wife. Your conscience also looks dead. It will have revived by then.
Therefore my guy; change. for the sake of your future,your happiness,your productivity and your family: please change. Embrace the change. Sort out this small mess and life will be good thereafter.

Regards,

tash