It seems like this marriage is bad coz both of you are enjoying that kind of arrangement. I don't think she is ignorant of your escapades and I believe she is also having her cake and eating it at the same time. Don't think you are the only one fooling her,she is also fooling you. Enjoy your bad marriage because you both made it so!!!

I will praise thee,O Lord my God,with all my heart: And I will glorify thy name forever more. Psalms 86:12

I might be one of the few people left on this planet who still believes in marriage and i believe that most people are in bad marriages coz of their own ignorance. The biggest mistake people make is marrying someone you cannot communicate with and someone who is not mature enough,then complaining about it later on. Men blame women,women blame men... Am sure @pavlovs wifey also blames him. but when did your troubles start? How can your wife love and respect you when all you do is drink and seek 'companionship' in other women? Take time on a day when you're sober and talk to her,am sure she's also hurting and holding on because of the junior. As long as your child needs two parents....they better be two loving,respectful,responsible adults..because when he starts understanding what is going on between his parents,he will be very mad at the both of you.
I do not advocate for divorce but in a case of habitual adultery...I do!

Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer but wish we didn't..

wewe wacha....

'we men' get aroused by thought,sight and touch....

imagine you are 'banging' you dream model.....

then turn to her.....

after a season of 'shadow-banging'...

you will be good to go....

I'm the real Massey F.....shut your mouth

@ pavlov. sorry to hear your predicament man,its an issue affecting countless marital unions all over the place. after all the womanising and drinking,the reality is still there the next morning,staring you starkly in the face. r u gonna keep running or r u gonna face it like a decent human being? your escapist attitude is really self-defeating and self destructive ... its analogous to biting your nose to spite your face. however,when all is said and done,you have to ask yourself the really hard questions. why get married in the 1st place? it seems for your case that although the intention was noble,the reasons were not good enough. same can be said of your reasons for staying in the marriage. look to yourself; are you part of the problem? what solutions are you offering? are you really the angel you want us to believe you are? once you turn the spotlight on youself,you will get a little more clarity. no one here can help you but yourself

Bludrip

Pavlov,putting your son's interest's first is a good thing. But your reasons for sleeping around are,at best,very juvenile. How has any of that helped solve the problem? You have removed yourself from collective responsibility.

In case I am speaking without profound understanding,when it comes to divorce,you are not doing the kid a favour by staying together - you are simply giving the kid a chance to grow up some more,perceive and understand more - thus hate or get hurt more. Kids under 5 years rarely get that much affected by divorce.

The problem with equality is that we desire that it be with those that have more than us rather that those that have less