Ati tusker? Hii utaharibu maneno my dear. Try wine or malt/reds, not brown b. na usilewe sana.

I'll probably get shot for revealing these secrets, but you asked:

Despite their loud blustery behavior, all men are highly insecure creatures.

That is why they like to be to be liked. Most of all a man wants to think he is needed, even if he is not.

Finally men have an external locus of self, they define their worth through 'things' - profession, property, car, achievements etc

So, on a first date:

1. Show interest in his work, plans - if he wants to share, things he has done etc

2. Compliment him often (note that whether you actually mean this or fake it is largely irrelevant)

3. Let him do most of the talking - your turn will come

4. Remember you are 'selling' a product (you) first impressions count - don't get drunk, don't over eat either, smile - a lot.

5. Remember to laugh at his jokes, even if they are terrible and you have heard them all before.

6. Leave your phone at home

6. Enjoy

will advice you do a coffee/lunch date for the first meeting, lest you get high and start whining about your ex, or even call the ex....

this is known to unleash sleeping dogs, if it has that kind of effect on you, please stay away...

It's a good test for a serious guy.
Wa kupitia tu will not want to discuss anything outside of that cz it's all he wants. Infact that topic shouldn't even crop up.
Munaweza ongea juu ya mahindi huko elgon,...matakwei,jeshi... and the like.