@Wendz

80/20 rule. Nini hii?

Thanks Wendz,at times flipping the coin does wonders.

The 80/20 rule in lay man terms means that 80% of the yield is as a result of 20% of the effort.

In marriage,its said you have 80% in your spouse,what you look for in a Mistress will

only get you 20%,BUT you risk losing the 80% already in the bag.


The Hedonist

Apparently its not a sin to marry two wives...but its not wise...only if our wives were so accomodating

@ juliani,

You did right by asking her to move out. There's that 'magic' that the sis sees in you and that's the magnet pulling her towards you. Believe me,even if you were allowed a swap,she may just become (rather you may just see her the same way you see her sister i.e lazy e.t.c). It's a matter of time.

Sometimes there is a deep seated (friendly) sibling rivalry where everyone wants to have it better than her (especially older) sibling. So is she sees the 'magic' in how you carry yourself along,she may just want to tag you. Maybe she used to hear the moans and screams from your bedroom as you worked your wife or maybe your wife told her how much of a 'bazooka' you are.

Point is let her off and if you care for her,try to introduce her to some of your single (eligible) male buddies,someone may just sweep her off you and you will be friends forever. I recall my ex gfs small sister,she would be very lively when I was just alone with her but whenever my Gf was around,she was a bit down and sometimes she would do stuff that was most presumably meant to lead me on.....which I ignored,sometimes with my blood circulation in a commplete disarray.

Touch her and you will never be same again...neither will the relationship between you and wife and also you. And as she matures,she will tharau you so much. Man just love your wife and kids and perhaps talk to her about the things that you don't 'like'.




We tenda wema kisha wende zako. Usinipe macho ya kutarajia shukrani!!!

@ wendz,....

Telling ur wife that u appreciate what her sister does n would like her to do the same would turn out to be disastrous in most cases,most likely exchange of dagger nikes to the extreme and unending talks with the inlaws..... mark the sister's words 'kila mtu ana maisha yake' she jumps on this guy and hail him with kisses,,,,,,in btw the lines words say that she is just disrespectful of her sis n juliani on the other hand has fallen for her........ thats why he is so eager to rejuvenate the relationship.......

@ Juliani

U took a wise and bold move dont go back.... work things out with ur wife coz what u r seeing in her sis is the same thing u saw in her till u got tired of it,,,it goes without saying that the same can happen with the sis even if u were to leave ur wife for her...... offcourse she is hurt coz she was doing all that on purpose n was very sure that u took bait.... u deal with ur heartbreak n let her deal with hers if she is mature enough she will come back n apologize to ur wife........ in the mean time if u really want to help her u can refer her to some of the SK kwajos

finally u can use the experience u got from her to help ur wife deliver the remaining 20% (only if that is logical and possible)

Its just me
whatever choice you make in life make sure that you can live with it.