Rank: Elder Joined: 6/19/2008 Posts: 4,268
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RedButterFly wrote:McReggae wrote:Wendz wrote:The most surprising thing is, we all see this coming. Both ways. but we do nothing about it. I know friends who have had it narrow, but they've stuck on. sometimes it works out well, sometimes it works out the wrong way. Every one knows their partners. You know when she/he is only interested in your money. When you start hiding what you own, then you know there is something not right. but until a major thing happens like this one, every one hopes that their partners will not go that far.... some are right/lucky some are wrong/unlucky.
I said it sometimes back, and i will say it again because majority in this site are either young couples or even unmarried. if you totally feel it's not working, just let go. Don't hurt anyone. Just pack the bloody bags and move out. He is not only "your husband". He is a father, a brother, a son, an uncle, a friend etc etc etc. Same case with the wife. he is your wife, but she is many other things too. What so hard with letting someone lead their lives and you lead yours? Dont "possess" someone. When you start "possessing" you start feeling you can do anything or have the right to do anything to that person.  Very well put @Wendz, however this only works kama ni mambo ya love and living a healthy family life, kama ni mbesha inatafutwo ni completely different!!!!!  couldn't agree more with you two! Well put You are right. On that part, it can be hard to tell. Someone's love-metre might even be overflowing so you are struck when you least expect it.... but from the simple day to day conversations, you can tell someone who is overly materialistic..... It will show in their investment decisions... if he/she suggests it's ok to either con/swindle/collude/do anything to get hold of a property/make money, then your antennae should be on the alert... you could even do some acid-test........
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