Ever wondered why our grad fathers used to marry many wives.

One was for cheap labour, women use to dig, carry, cook etc. Then since these were laborers as the guy grew older he would marry a young girl who he believed would take care of him...Any social scientist to explain to us this phenomenon.

Ah! It sounds like the fault has been placed squarely on the woman's shoulders! The way I see it, there are many men who have a roving eye and will tend to always look for a "better" version of what they already have (younger/prettier/more successful ... or naive depending on the man). They take their partner for granted (and she become resentful). They might be sexually selfish (so she looks elsewhere for satisfaction).

@Mukiri, totally agree with you. If the man & woman,would put as much effort in their marriage as they put in their MBA's, their career progression etc and stop being selfish, then I guess we'd have fewer of these cases.

@AlphDoti - Both men and women are prone to sexual desire.A monogamous marriage is difficult enough without cheating.An increase in the number of women a man is dedicated to means that the women will inevitably be forced to share his time.Won't this directly affect infidelity of the women?

Pole bro, hizi vitu hufanyika. Si mwisho wa maisha.

Its because most men marry to please society (family, friends etc) and not themselves. Marry for your own happiness. Truth is there are so many trophy wives these days

Totally agree, most men want the easy way out. The village that i grew up in had only one drunkard and he was known, now our fathers did not drink and pee on themselves and walk home at wee hours of the morning, sleep the whole day on Saturday and go back to the pub, disappear from their homes for days, atleast it was known where they were incase they had other wives. they respected their families.
Now we have a new breed of men who actually think its okay to disrespect their wives, doggy as much, even beat them up. and that makes you a man?
There is not a single day my dad went to the shamba, but all assets in the home were under his name, the kids will pluck tea etc and he would earn the money, he was still respected as the head of the home, i can tell that all my fees was paid by mum through my dad.
She is the one who tilled the land and milked the cows, my dad gave orders, orders that we respected even when we did not like them, that said you can bet who gets a cheque from me every month, dad still is the head of the house.
Women nowadays define a man by how much he earns, what car he drives, and what they call 'swag'
that said, hakuna mwanaume/mwanamke mzuri huwachwa, find the one that is right for you, marry a friend, someone whom when the money runs out, you can live happily in Kibera and not resent each other.