Trust me Magigi, when we say we are going to kill ourselves, we arent planning to... by telling her that, she'll have known you have known the trick and you know for sure she is not killing herself but just stressing you. There is no one who is suicidal who will come telling you "i'll kill myself"... you learn from the actions. My bro did it, it has never come up again, ever. they are now married.

Copy pasted from Marriage Pride Initiative Facebook page. Wives take note.

SEX OR RESPECT, WHAT DOES A MAN NEED MORE?

I have been asked by countless married women to help their marriages by pointing out for them what a man needs the most from his wife. This has been the subject of many married couples retreat and I have even written blog posts about it. I am bringing it up again as I recently was teaching a premarital class and the question came up again. Julie wanted raised the issue seeking my opinion as she had been to a bridal shower where the women present held the view that a woman will not care how you treat him as long as you give him sex.

My answer was simple, give a man sex and deny him respect and admiration and you will be killing him as a man and easily chasing him away from home. The Bible says in Proverbs 25:24 “It’s better to live alone in the corner of an attic than with a quarrelsome wife in a lovely home.” In other words, it is better for a man to live alone in a place of hardship than in a lovely home with a wife who does not show respect and holds no admiration for him. In serving as a pastor, I keep having to counsel with couples in marital trouble and the number one source of problems in relationships is always how the woman treats her husband. A man needs admiration and respect from his wife more than he needs sex. Actually, a man can even end up unable to function sexually simply because of how he is treated by his wife. Ephesians 5:32 says, “…the wife Must respect the husband”.

I had a chat with Mary who’s husband of ten years left her and
moved out of the marital home to rent a house and live on his own. Mary was
badly hurt and for many months refused to admit she might have contributed to the breakdown of her marriage until one day when her nine year old daughter shouted at her in a moment of anger, “I will never forgive you for chasing my dad away with your complaining. Why don’t you ever see anything good in my dad?” The words ripped through her like a bullet and she sat down quietly and asked the daughter to explain. To her amazement, the daughter pointed out more than five
different occasions when she had felt so hurt because of the way her mum had spoken to or treated her dad. Many of the occasions were in public and in the presence of other people. Mary realized that she was the one who had chased her man.

Are you chasing your man, destroying your marriage and relationship by the words you use and your actions? Do you respect and build up your man with admiration? Don’t go by what is popular, go by what works.