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Wendz wrote:Um Sayala wrote:Ni kubaya daddy. My experience:
Mine was always moody whenever I came late, and that was about 11pm, mostly from watching football.
Then I got fed up and told her staright....
"darling I love you but I will not stop watching football..Henry, Pires, Bergkamp... Sitawacha so the earlier u get used to it the better".
She accepted and moved on. ALMOST 14yrs now.
Marriage is a compromise, a few things you'll sacrifice, even some friends must be shed off BUT there are strong holds that she MUST admit broda, otherwise ajipange. This, and ZZE(something) are the best advise you can get for your situation. This is from a woman's point of view... What i would tell my son, the next time you are locked out of that bedroom, just remove the bedroom door, literally and let it stay like that for two days. Don't bother repairing it. change from the bathroom and act like you are perfectly ok with it. It will never be locked again. Make sure you have let her know this is what you intend to do when it happens next time and because she'll lock you out to test your resolve, do exactly that. On the Killing herself bit, this is the advise i gave my brother when the girlfriend kept giving him grief with the same stupid line, Just hand her a rope and tell her to call her people and let them know where she'll be jumping from exactly because you will not bother calling them when she does.... When she threatens to swallow medicine, tell her to call a pathologist to prescribe the most effective ones and give an invoice, you'll give her money to buy them. And tell her, when she dies, you will not take 3 months before you get married again.... She'll die of natural causes at 126 years... as a woman I second that. thanks auntie for nailing it.
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 11/12/2009 Posts: 925
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Ngogoyo wrote:
I have copy pasted all your contributions since some of them stand out like @MC dreads, i will read them in the evening.
Thank you all
I am not a weakling neither a wife beater but there comes a time that a man has to be a man he never envisioned.
I will post my next course of action by kesho and definately will seek to talk with a professional (alone)
she told me jana morning she is going to their home to see ailing dad yet didnt bother to ask me if okay (siwezirifuse) but its in order to show care.
harudi kwangu anytime till jubilee itoke gover......
..........we can have a drink today? on me...? today you can go back home at 1am since she will be MIA......
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 4/1/2009 Posts: 1,885
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callaspade wrote:Ngogoyo wrote:
I have copy pasted all your contributions since some of them stand out like @MC dreads, i will read them in the evening.
Thank you all
I am not a weakling neither a wife beater but there comes a time that a man has to be a man he never envisioned.
I will post my next course of action by kesho and definately will seek to talk with a professional (alone)
she told me jana morning she is going to their home to see ailing dad yet didnt bother to ask me if okay (siwezirifuse) but its in order to show care.
harudi kwangu anytime till jubilee itoke gover......
..........we can have a drink today? on me...? today you can go back home at 1am since she will be MIA...... callaspade is a socket.... 
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Rank: Member Joined: 8/14/2009 Posts: 244
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[quote=essyk]Your story sounds like a fairy tale. marry shida,stay single shida,separate,shida,divorce shida,date shida!! the only place without shida is death. move on.  In other words, DIE ????? why mum ?
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Rank: Member Joined: 5/19/2012 Posts: 552
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stock.enigma wrote:[quote=essyk]Your story sounds like a fairy tale. marry shida,stay single shida,separate,shida,divorce shida,date shida!! the only place without shida is death. move on. In other words, DIE ????? why mum ? So as to get peace, the one item that seems so elusive when alive. Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.... Leo Buscaglia
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 11/12/2009 Posts: 925
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mkenyan wrote:callaspade wrote:Ngogoyo wrote:
I have copy pasted all your contributions since some of them stand out like @MC dreads, i will read them in the evening.
Thank you all
I am not a weakling neither a wife beater but there comes a time that a man has to be a man he never envisioned.
I will post my next course of action by kesho and definately will seek to talk with a professional (alone)
she told me jana morning she is going to their home to see ailing dad yet didnt bother to ask me if okay (siwezirifuse) but its in order to show care.
harudi kwangu anytime till jubilee itoke gover......
..........we can have a drink today? on me...? today you can go back home at 1am since she will be MIA...... callaspade is a socket.... ....i thought all escapees from mathare were accounted for but i guess i was wrong 
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Rank: Member Joined: 6/26/2008 Posts: 365
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Copy pasted from Marriage Pride Initiative Facebook page. Wives take note. SEX OR RESPECT, WHAT DOES A MAN NEED MORE? I have been asked by countless married women to help their marriages by pointing out for them what a man needs the most from his wife. This has been the subject of many married couples retreat and I have even written blog posts about it. I am bringing it up again as I recently was teaching a premarital class and the question came up again. Julie wanted raised the issue seeking my opinion as she had been to a bridal shower where the women present held the view that a woman will not care how you treat him as long as you give him sex. My answer was simple, give a man sex and deny him respect and admiration and you will be killing him as a man and easily chasing him away from home. The Bible says in Proverbs 25:24 “It’s better to live alone in the corner of an attic than with a quarrelsome wife in a lovely home.” In other words, it is better for a man to live alone in a place of hardship than in a lovely home with a wife who does not show respect and holds no admiration for him. In serving as a pastor, I keep having to counsel with couples in marital trouble and the number one source of problems in relationships is always how the woman treats her husband. A man needs admiration and respect from his wife more than he needs sex. Actually, a man can even end up unable to function sexually simply because of how he is treated by his wife. Ephesians 5:32 says, “…the wife Must respect the husband”. I had a chat with Mary who’s husband of ten years left her and moved out of the marital home to rent a house and live on his own. Mary was badly hurt and for many months refused to admit she might have contributed to the breakdown of her marriage until one day when her nine year old daughter shouted at her in a moment of anger, “I will never forgive you for chasing my dad away with your complaining. Why don’t you ever see anything good in my dad?” The words ripped through her like a bullet and she sat down quietly and asked the daughter to explain. To her amazement, the daughter pointed out more than five different occasions when she had felt so hurt because of the way her mum had spoken to or treated her dad. Many of the occasions were in public and in the presence of other people. Mary realized that she was the one who had chased her man. Are you chasing your man, destroying your marriage and relationship by the words you use and your actions? Do you respect and build up your man with admiration? Don’t go by what is popular, go by what works. If you have only one smile in you, give it to the people you love - Maya Angelou
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Rank: Elder Joined: 6/19/2008 Posts: 4,268
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Ngogoyo wrote:Prime wrote:@Ngogoyo
You still need to give more info. When did this whole thing start? Has it always been like this? We may all be blaming madam but you never know! The insecurity may have a source... just sayin for all i know @prime it started waaaay back from dating.
i blame myself for agreeing to marry her when she got paged. Thank you very much. We all see it coming.... but we meet the truck head on... now, just accept it and put a nyahunyo in the dining room... she's gonna need it when she comes back from shaggs if you heed to Callaspade's call.
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Rank: Elder Joined: 3/31/2008 Posts: 7,081 Location: Kenya
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oops wrote:Wendz wrote:Um Sayala wrote:Ni kubaya daddy. My experience:
Mine was always moody whenever I came late, and that was about 11pm, mostly from watching football.
Then I got fed up and told her staright....
"darling I love you but I will not stop watching football..Henry, Pires, Bergkamp... Sitawacha so the earlier u get used to it the better".
She accepted and moved on. ALMOST 14yrs now.
Marriage is a compromise, a few things you'll sacrifice, even some friends must be shed off BUT there are strong holds that she MUST admit broda, otherwise ajipange. This, and ZZE(something) are the best advise you can get for your situation. This is from a woman's point of view... What i would tell my son, the next time you are locked out of that bedroom, just remove the bedroom door, literally and let it stay like that for two days. Don't bother repairing it. change from the bathroom and act like you are perfectly ok with it. It will never be locked again. Make sure you have let her know this is what you intend to do when it happens next time and because she'll lock you out to test your resolve, do exactly that. On the Killing herself bit, this is the advise i gave my brother when the girlfriend kept giving him grief with the same stupid line, Just hand her a rope and tell her to call her people and let them know where she'll be jumping from exactly because you will not bother calling them when she does.... When she threatens to swallow medicine, tell her to call a pathologist to prescribe the most effective ones and give an invoice, you'll give her money to buy them. And tell her, when she dies, you will not take 3 months before you get married again.... She'll die of natural causes at 126 years... as a woman I second that. thanks auntie for nailing it. ...You tell a woman stuff like and hope to stay alive? She will dispatch you to your maker faster than you can believe!
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Rank: Veteran Joined: 11/20/2009 Posts: 1,402
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Jacy26 wrote:Copy pasted from Marriage Pride Initiative Facebook page. Wives take note.
SEX OR RESPECT, WHAT DOES A MAN NEED MORE?
I have been asked by countless married women to help their marriages by pointing out for them what a man needs the most from his wife. This has been the subject of many married couples retreat and I have even written blog posts about it. I am bringing it up again as I recently was teaching a premarital class and the question came up again. Julie wanted raised the issue seeking my opinion as she had been to a bridal shower where the women present held the view that a woman will not care how you treat him as long as you give him sex.
My answer was simple, give a man sex and deny him respect and admiration and you will be killing him as a man and easily chasing him away from home. The Bible says in Proverbs 25:24 “It’s better to live alone in the corner of an attic than with a quarrelsome wife in a lovely home.” In other words, it is better for a man to live alone in a place of hardship than in a lovely home with a wife who does not show respect and holds no admiration for him. In serving as a pastor, I keep having to counsel with couples in marital trouble and the number one source of problems in relationships is always how the woman treats her husband. A man needs admiration and respect from his wife more than he needs sex. Actually, a man can even end up unable to function sexually simply because of how he is treated by his wife. Ephesians 5:32 says, “…the wife Must respect the husband”.
I had a chat with Mary who’s husband of ten years left her and moved out of the marital home to rent a house and live on his own. Mary was badly hurt and for many months refused to admit she might have contributed to the breakdown of her marriage until one day when her nine year old daughter shouted at her in a moment of anger, “I will never forgive you for chasing my dad away with your complaining. Why don’t you ever see anything good in my dad?” The words ripped through her like a bullet and she sat down quietly and asked the daughter to explain. To her amazement, the daughter pointed out more than five different occasions when she had felt so hurt because of the way her mum had spoken to or treated her dad. Many of the occasions were in public and in the presence of other people. Mary realized that she was the one who had chased her man.
Are you chasing your man, destroying your marriage and relationship by the words you use and your actions? Do you respect and build up your man with admiration? Don’t go by what is popular, go by what works. Kweli Kabisa
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