if you love you wife and treat her like a queen you will be treated like a king.action and reaction are equal and opposite.
you get what you sow.if you trash her she will trash you. learn to respect her feelings her likes what she hates and emphasise on her likes while avoiding her dislike.otherwise you are in deep sit.

Ni kubaya daddy. My experience:
Mine was always moody whenever I came late, and that was about 11pm, mostly from watching football.
Then I got fed up and told her staright....
"darling I love you but I will not stop watching football..Henry, Pires, Bergkamp... Sitawacha so the earlier u get used to it the better".

She accepted and moved on. ALMOST 14yrs now.

Marriage is a compromise, a few things you'll sacrifice, even some friends must be shed off BUT there are strong holds that she MUST admit broda, otherwise ajipange.

Just a question dont you see certain signs when you are dating that is why 36 months is the most ideal time frame for dating...am not married so I wunt give you any advice,if you pray do it thats all I can say...

pole sana.

What do you think is the right thing to do? search yourself and therein is the answer.

Your story sounds like a fairy tale.
marry shida,stay single shida,separate,shida,divorce shida,date shida!!
the only place without shida is death.
move on.