Members of esteemed wazua i am in need of your help

direct to the point...

I have (probably had) a family, young one at that since ngogoyolet is 2yrs and ngogoyo hitting 30. Wife is the problem (they are always but this is different).

She has dared to beat me and once slapped me while asleep in dining room. (na hata hhelp akaona). Kisa na maana i came late (1am) from a workmate farewell and infact i had informed her i will be late as i always do.

I love her but i am not allowed to go anywhere at night past 6pm (not unless in campus, work or their home).

what do i do????. She has abused my long close friends over the phone (both male & female).said bad things about mum, failed to open for me couple of times at night, locked bedroom ndio nisiingie during day, no wifey duties etc

i love her & cant hit her yet i can beat her burukenge but i know for a man it will be straight to jail.

i love my son soooo much that i feel so stresed at the thought of seperating with her since she will definately take the mboy due to his age.

she doest accept any social thing i do neither allow us to see a marriage counsellor neither gets open when i seek dialogue....

at this rate i will lose my job due to non-concentration, ulcers zimecheck in and this is not "my friend"

Pole sana bro. I say feel deeply and think clearly about yourself. Put yourself first. Put everything about this relationship on a scale (Ratili). Think about all that is good about it and all that is not good about it. If the good outweighs the bad stay in and work on your marriage. If the bad outweighs the good achana nayo and as the Jubilants like to say "move on."

Listen boss....hio kitu inaitwa love does not exist, wewe ndio unaumia. Just pack your bags and move out. Talk to the parents and let them know that you're considering calling it quits. Another Wazuan also shared his predicament here and he said marriage was not for him. You can file at the courts to have your son

This is what you do. During the holiday, tell them you are taking them for holiday at her home. Then come back home.Kwanza change the main door lock and the your bedroom. Enjoy the weeks alone and when you get them make sure that you stamp your authority in the house.

Please don't leave your wife nor your son. Don't even let that be an option. Much as this may look unlikely, this is when they need you most. This is when you need them most. Tests are not in the good times, its in times like this when you know the stuff you are made of.

My take. Come to our church, CITAM Valley road. Give your life to the Lord. See a counselor (Free-of-charge). Get a mentor and heal your marriage. On 26th, running for 6 Sundays from 2PM, we have 'Awaken the sleeping Giant' specifically for us men.

PS: In the meantime, as first aid, to quote Chris Rock, don't hit her... but you can shake the hell out of her!