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essyk
#1 Posted : Tuesday, March 19, 2013 3:28:51 PM
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Do you approve? Is it okay?

How does it feel like?

My opinion,it hurts me so bad. I know some kids are 'tough' but I feel terrible anytime I see or hear a child cry as a result of kichapo from a girl.
Can such a kid learn any lesson from the girl or will they rebel?

"The true measure of a man is how he treats someone who can do him absolutely no good.
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Buster
#2 Posted : Tuesday, March 19, 2013 3:42:32 PM
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Never Ever!!!!!!!!!! Let the house help tell you what the Child has done, you take it from there.
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AlphDoti
#3 Posted : Tuesday, March 19, 2013 3:46:57 PM
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My 'friend', my 'neighbour' with BIG jogoo, my 'colleague', my ...
@essyk welcome to the club, you got a new housegirl, tell exacty as @buster said
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#4 Posted : Tuesday, March 19, 2013 3:47:26 PM
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You must respect your housegirl and set an example for your child to respect the housegirl. In this way the child will see the girl as the person in authority when you are not there and will respect her and obey instructions. Thus cases of indiscipline will be rare.

But I also do not advocate for it.
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essyk
#5 Posted : Tuesday, March 19, 2013 3:51:12 PM
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AlphDoti wrote:
My 'friend', my 'neighbour' with BIG jogoo, my 'colleague', my ...
@essyk welcome to the club, you got a new housegirl, tell exacty as @buster said


Laughing out loudly no not really.I am a hands on person and do everything by myself.

But whenever I hear a child cry and the mother/dad is not around it breaks my heart.
The way a parent disciplines is not the same way a girl will do.
Besides that the girl will not sit and teach the kid,hence my concern.
"The true measure of a man is how he treats someone who can do him absolutely no good.
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King G
#6 Posted : Tuesday, March 19, 2013 4:48:56 PM
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Mboch should not be allowed to beat child(ren). that will lead to abuse including landing for small boys. let her report what happened then you be the judge in a firm manner.
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Wendz
#7 Posted : Tuesday, March 19, 2013 5:36:12 PM
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essyk wrote:
Do you approve? Is it okay?

How does it feel like?

My opinion,it hurts me so bad. I know some kids are 'tough' but I feel terrible anytime I see or hear a child cry as a result of kichapo from a girl.
Can such a kid learn any lesson from the girl or will they rebel?



First things first

1. you are the mother in the house
2. the housegal is your assitant
3. you set the rules in the house
4. you ensure that the rules are followed.

A housegal, being your assistant has to know her position. Disciplining the children is not her work. That is the parents work. The first thing the housegals know when they come to my house is that my children are my business when it comes to disciplining. I do respect them and demand that the kids respect them but absolutely no beating them. If they have a problem, i go home every evening and that's when they should be tell me. Of course this is spelt out to them in the nicesest way possible and they feel like they have a "authority" but very limited.... so the most they do is threaten the kids that they will report their mischief. I also do take it seriously when the housegal reports the mischief but i determine whether it warrants spanking or a round table discussion - and of course thank the housegal for reporting it and encourage her to report any future mischief she spots. Whichever way, it gives the housegal satisfaction that it was dealt with and therefore the incentive to report it next time and the kids know there is an eye even when parents are way.

However, if housegal takes it upon herself to discipline the kids, it's a sure ticket to let her "step aside" to let me handle my business. Hapo hakuna mkate nusu.....
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essyk
#8 Posted : Tuesday, March 19, 2013 6:04:50 PM
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Wendz wrote:
essyk wrote:
Do you approve? Is it okay?

How does it feel like?

My opinion,it hurts me so bad. I know some kids are 'tough' but I feel terrible anytime I see or hear a child cry as a result of kichapo from a girl.
Can such a kid learn any lesson from the girl or will they rebel?



First things first

1. you are the mother in the house
2. the housegal is your assitant
3. you set the rules in the house
4. you ensure that the rules are followed.

A housegal, being your assistant has to know her position. Disciplining the children is not her work. That is the parents work. The first thing the housegals know when they come to my house is that my children are my business when it comes to disciplining. I do respect them and demand that the kids respect them but absolutely no beating them. If they have a problem, i go home every evening and that's when they should be tell me. Of course this is spelt out to them in the nicesest way possible and they feel like they have a "authority" but very limited.... so the most they do is threaten the kids that they will report their mischief. I also do take it seriously when the housegal reports the mischief but i determine whether it warrants spanking or a round table discussion - and of course thank the housegal for reporting it and encourage her to report any future mischief she spots. Whichever way, it gives the housegal satisfaction that it was dealt with and therefore the incentive to report it next time and the kids know there is an eye even when parents are way.

However, if housegal takes it upon herself to discipline the kids, it's a sure ticket to let her "step aside" to let me handle my business. Hapo hakuna mkate nusu.....


I like this approach.
Enyewe if you don't discipline the child after the 'report' by the girl you leave her with no choice but to take matters into her own hands.


"The true measure of a man is how he treats someone who can do him absolutely no good.
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AlphDoti
#9 Posted : Tuesday, March 19, 2013 6:08:01 PM
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essyk wrote:
AlphDoti wrote:
My 'friend', my 'neighbour' with BIG jogoo, my 'colleague', my ...
@essyk welcome to the club, you got a new housegirl, tell exacty as @buster said


Laughing out loudly no not really.I am a hands on person and do everything by myself.

But whenever I hear a child cry and the mother/dad is not around it breaks my heart.
The way a parent disciplines is not the same way a girl will do.
Besides that the girl will not sit and teach the kid,hence my concern.

@essyk just pulling your leg!
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