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@Mahegoat, I introduced the matter of fuzzy logic because you happen again not to be entirely wrong, in that I am responding to my own imagination. Hehehe! She calls them 'projections'.
But then you are also making projections!
She could also be the banker and the wife, or that I am a free lover! Or even, both!
In love, we always find ourselves beginning with projections. We have a clue about how people who are in love relate, and try to play by the script. The projections.
But there must always be conflict and inner pain as two projections standing seperately cannot bring completeness.
The reflector must be deconstructed to be one new reflector at all times.
So sometimes for us, our projections get on the way and we get into a love - hate relationship, then we deconstruct and construct again.
And I am always sure that she loves me when I see her Deconstructing herself for me.
And I am sure that I love her, because even now I am Deconstructing myself for her.
And when we meet, we will reconstruct a new self together.
Did my parents love each other then? The answer can only be given with reference to a specific times. But somehow most of the times there was hate and anger, therefore, no love.
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tycho wrote:In love, we always find ourselves beginning with projections. We have a clue about how people who are in love relate, and try to play by the script. The projections. I take it then you hold the Clinton's marriage as the default projection having been brought up in such a family. Never a dull moment. War and make up. Love and hate and anger. Disillusionment and academic excellence. What is her default projection? Most women I know seem to have PROTUS Obama's marriage as the ideal. Mushy Mushy, lovey dovey. It must be quite difficult then to reconcile the two projections. Enlighten me.
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aemathenge wrote:tycho wrote:In love, we always find ourselves beginning with projections. We have a clue about how people who are in love relate, and try to play by the script. The projections. I take it then you hold the Clinton's marriage as the default projection having been brought up in such a family. Never a dull moment. War and make up. Love and hate and anger. Disillusionment and academic excellence. What is her default projection? Most women I know seem to have PROTUS Obama's marriage as the ideal. Mushy Mushy, lovey dovey. It must be quite difficult then to reconcile the two projections. Enlighten me. We have a similar 'default projection'.
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aemathenge wrote:tycho wrote:In love, we always find ourselves beginning with projections. We have a clue about how people who are in love relate, and try to play by the script. The projections. I take it then you hold the Clinton's marriage as the default projection having been brought up in such a family. Never a dull moment. War and make up. Love and hate and anger. Disillusionment and academic excellence. What is her default projection? Most women I know seem to have PROTUS Obama's marriage as the ideal. Mushy Mushy, lovey dovey. It must be quite difficult then to reconcile the two projections. Enlighten me. I don't blame women. They were raised with such expectations just like men are raised with some expectations of women. For me,a relationship a couple has to share common goals which they would like to bear fruit together otherwise what will bind them. Uncertainty is certain.Let go
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Love is a verb - an action word.
Love is patient
And kind
It does not envy
It does not boast
It is not proud
It is not rude
It is not self seeking
It is not easily angered.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth
It always protects
Always trusts
Always hopes
Always perseveres
Love never fails
1st Corinthians 13 from verse 4
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For Sport wrote:Love is a verb - an action word.
Love is patient
And kind
It does not envy
It does not boast
It is not proud
It is not rude
It is not self seeking
It is not easily angered.
Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth
It always protects
Always trusts
Always hopes
Always perseveres
Love never fails
1st Corinthians 13 from verse 4
 If you love somebody, let them go, for if they return, they were always yours. If they don't, they never were. Uncertainty is certain.Let go
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Rank: Elder Joined: 2/23/2009 Posts: 1,626
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Which comes first empathy or love? Uncertainty is certain.Let go
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Which one is great for both the mind and the soul; honest love or wonderful sex? In the business world, everyone is paid in two coins - cash and experience. Take the experience first; the cash will come later - H Geneen
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Angelica _ann wrote:Which one is great for both the mind and the soul; honest love or wonderful sex? The body fades,so honest love.You? Uncertainty is certain.Let go
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Rank: Elder Joined: 7/1/2011 Posts: 8,804 Location: Nairobi
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Angelica _ann wrote:Which one is great for both the mind and the soul; honest love or wonderful sex? You can have them both. Or rather, they go together.
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When the heart breaks,its just making more space for love Uncertainty is certain.Let go
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Rank: Elder Joined: 7/1/2011 Posts: 8,804 Location: Nairobi
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ChessMaster wrote:When the heart breaks,its just making more space for love Can 'it' break and result in another 'it'?
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tycho wrote:ChessMaster wrote:When the heart breaks,its just making more space for love Can 'it' break and result in another 'it'? A better one,if one chooses to. Uncertainty is certain.Let go
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Rank: Elder Joined: 7/1/2011 Posts: 8,804 Location: Nairobi
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ChessMaster wrote:tycho wrote:ChessMaster wrote:When the heart breaks,its just making more space for love Can 'it' break and result in another 'it'? A better one,if one chooses to. Elaborate further.
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tycho wrote:ChessMaster wrote:tycho wrote:ChessMaster wrote:When the heart breaks,its just making more space for love Can 'it' break and result in another 'it'? A better one,if one chooses to. Elaborate further. Think phoenix.From the ashes comes forth life.Lets also use empathy.If you suffer a terrible heartbreak and you find yourself in love again,won't you be more careful not to hurt the other person just like you were?That heartbreak can make you more loving because you know how precious it is.Well,that is if you choose to care for the one you love. Uncertainty is certain.Let go
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Rank: Elder Joined: 7/1/2011 Posts: 8,804 Location: Nairobi
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ChessMaster wrote:tycho wrote:ChessMaster wrote:tycho wrote:ChessMaster wrote:When the heart breaks,its just making more space for love Can 'it' break and result in another 'it'? A better one,if one chooses to. Elaborate further. Think phoenix.From the ashes comes forth life.Lets also use empathy.If you suffer a terrible heartbreak and you find yourself in love again,won't you be more careful not to hurt the other person just like you were?That heartbreak can make you more loving because you know how precious it is.Well,that is if you choose to care for the one you love. Are you speaking of transitions of 'being' to 'not being' then 'being' again?
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Not transition of states but progression.Change.My claim is,a heartbreak can make someone more loving if they desire to be more loving by learning and growing from the heartbreak.But if they choose not to,they regress. Uncertainty is certain.Let go
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Rank: Elder Joined: 7/1/2011 Posts: 8,804 Location: Nairobi
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ChessMaster wrote:Not transition of states but progression.Change.My claim is,a heartbreak can make someone more loving if they desire to be more loving by learning and growing from the heartbreak.But if they choose not to,they regress. How is transition different from progression in this case?
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Rank: Elder Joined: 2/23/2009 Posts: 1,626
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Transition is assured. The question is whether one wants to regress or progress. Uncertainty is certain.Let go
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