@ Querry, Congrats.
To be a mother is a most wonderful thing. I think one of the best things to be in life.
I would not be so worried about not getting morning sickness et al. Look at it as an immense blessing! I did not suffer morning sickness or funny cravings at all and i generally enjoyed my pregnancies. I will not lie though, the weight is quite something and i often joke that my back has never recovered.
And my dear, you will be responsible enough, you are already seeking for information. Just purpose before your child is born to be a good mother. God honours that.
Breastfeeding is a very good thing and increases the bonding with the child. And sometimes with your jealous spouse too..

Now, When baby comes, please set the routine for your child. Do not let him/her control what is day & night. Now, something i was taught and which worked for my children. Wash the baby at night -like around 9pm (of course heat up the room and all), massage the child then breastfeed. You will all sleep till about 5am. Then at night, diminish the light in your room. If it is night, use a low watt side lamp to luminate. A child can only learn night & day from you. If you leave all lights on, you confuse the child.
Hope my small tips help

thanks for your reply; same way i'd say i fear the labour process- doesn't mean i will not go through it.

I was wondering what's happenning at the oevn that kept the thread growing.

Congrats Querry!

Thanks

BABY SHOPPING

Thanks for keeping the thread active even in my absence.

An now in my 3rd Trimester...Honeymoon is over . I’m still enjoying my pregnancy.

That reminds me I’m yet to get a single baby item and I would like to seek the wise counsel of Wazuans on what is necessary and what is not necessary.

I have been window shopping and there are lots and lots of baby stuff out there. I need to get what is necessary and practical, i dont want to impress akina Johanna next door so no fancy things which will be used for display not for baby. Take the example of a simple thing as a baby basin; there are big ones, small ones with the makalio sculptured on the bottom of the basin, Others with the makalio plus a kahammock(for what if I may ask) that’s the variety for you guys out there who may have zero idea.
So where do I begin from?

@Querry Congratulation!

I am not yet a mother but I looove babies and can't wait to hold one of my own majaliwa. I have held some of my friends' hands in this journey and here is my 2 cents from that:
1. Do some practical shopping and resist the urge to buy everything cute that you see. You need just enough to see you through the first few weeks and you will be back shopping for bigger clothes plus friends and relas will bring you enough.
2. I would urge you not to fear second hand clothes from when the baby is 1+ months. God protects .
3. Start saving for higher ticket items like a baby car seat.

All the best and let us know when the baby shower is...that is if you won't be surprised with one .

@Quarry, kindly tell Lady Admin to grow up!

@Peppy, that is very solid..... I am also taking notes....

Stolen from FB:

DEDICATED TO FIRST TIME PREGNANT MUMS THINGS THEY DO NOT TELL YOU ABOUT AFTER YOU HAVE A BABY :/

1. You will have a really heavy period. No matter how you give birth (c-section or va-j-j) you will have postpartum bleeding. This delightful discharge is called lochia and it sounds about as appealing as it is. It lasts as little as two to three weeks or as long as six weeks after birth. The best part is you're given giant, thunderpads in the hospital because you can't use tampons during this time (it can introduce bacteria into your healing uterus) so you have the added pleasure of feeling like a 15-year old girl from 1974.

2. Your crotch might be a mess. You may be dealing with a swollen, stitched up mighty mess that even Stephen King couldn't dream up. There are a variety of elixirs and contraptions to help ease the horror including salts baths, frozen bags of peas and a little water bottle that you squirt on yourself while you pee. In my experience I've found that it's best not to look – it was actually worse than I thought it would be. Dear God so bad.

3. You're still fat. You will need clothes after you've had this kid because you'll be sort of second trimester fat for a while. This is yet another reason I hate those damn model and celebrities that are wafer thin 10 minutes after they've given birth because it isn't realistic. Everything is very different when you've had your tummy tuck during your elective c-section and you can hand your baby off to a nanny and have a personal trainer up in your face everyday. Pilates and brown rice my ass.

4. You might cry. A. LOT. Some women get off really easy with this one and don't ride the hormonal roller coaster after they've had a baby and to them I say "lucky, lucky whore".

5. Your hair might fall out. I know. Don't you feel pretty now? So here you are all post partum and fat and to add insult to injury you might start losing some of your hair. Here you were all excited about your luscious locks while you were pregnant, well, sorry Cinderella but the party is over and the hair fairy wants her glass slippers back. This is one of those wonderful hormone side effects that can come with giving birth. At least there will be less to worry about when pulling your hair up into your new-mom ponytail.

6. Breastfeeding might be difficult. If you choose to breastfeed your baby, be prepared for a little bit of work. Not everybody has a smooth ride and it can be anything the soft, bonding posters they plaster all over "Breast is Best" pamphlets. The good news is once you're over the hard part, it's pretty maintenance free and you can never forget your baby's lunch on the counter. If you have an easy time of it, awesome! Don't brag though, you're liable to be beaten to death by other hormonal mothers.

7. You might hate your husband. I have two theories of nature. One, babies look like their fathers when they are born so the father is reassured that the baby is his and won't take off. Two, nature takes care of you not conceiving right after giving birth by making you want to punch in his face every time you see him. Again, it's probably hormone related. Again, this isn't always the case but I'm just warning you that you might stare at his peaceful sleeping face at 2am and wonder what the hell the point of him is and how can that son of a bitch just lie there sleeping,while you try to get your baby to sleep for the umpteenth time. You're not alone and a jury full of mothers with newborns wouldn't convict you if you bludgeoned him to death with a breast pump. That said, he may be worth keeping around so take a deep breath and ignore the urge......for now.

8. You might be hot. No, not good hot. Gross, sweaty, fat man hot. Thank your hormones. Once again they may be to blame for giving you hot flashes and making you feel like a high-noon whore. Nothing says sexy like a woman with 10kgs of extra baby weight, who's losing her hair and walking around like she just ran for a bus.

9. Hard boobs. You know those crazy porn boobs you see on some women that are just gigantic and don't move? No? Well, try skipping a feeding while you're nursing and you'll have a pretty good idea what that's like. It sounds cool but it isn't so don't add stripper heels to your registry....well, not for this reason anyway.

10. Pooing is scary. I saved the best for last, no? No matter what exit your baby used, your BM equipment is close by and you'll have to use it eventually. I think the phrase "tentative terror" best sums up this act and may I suggest picking out extra names because you're going to want to name your first poop after you take such tender care bringing into the world. Gross? Sorry. Fact? Yep

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