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bebeto
#31 Posted : Thursday, January 10, 2013 8:08:02 AM
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Impunity wrote:
smith01 wrote:
Impunity wrote:
Stop going home to greet paroz while dressed in a Sir Henry's suit white at the same time clutching a briefcase plus sharpshooter pair of shoes!

Dress like a hustler!


@Impunity this one really works for me.

smile


I have brown coudroy trao I bought in 2004 at Gikomba just near the Machakos bus station; 90% of the times I have been seen in Shags I have always been seen in it!
It has a conspicuously dark brown patch on the left thigh area.
I leave my car 15 km away in the homestead of a former primary school teacher who is a close friend to me, in fact he is my grass-root informer.
I then board a pikipiki boda boda @50 bob to home.
smile


Laughing out loudly reverse Papa Shirandula. For me I could be dressed in rags and they'll still ask and ask and ask for years on end. I have two cousins who will call at least twice a week and have done so since 2009, I no longer answer them. The fact that I live in Nairobi is enough for them to think I am Warren Buffet.

Ditto......sometimes i do it, sometimes a ka-shopping, sometimes i dont....
"The chief danger in life is that you may take too many precautions" - Alfred adler
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AlphDoti
#32 Posted : Thursday, January 10, 2013 10:12:04 AM
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Njung'e wrote:
They work for it.....even if it means digging an area where i have no intentions of doing anything......as for neighbours and sumbuas,i buy stuff from them.You need cash?.Lete hata wheelbarrow mzee,jembe panga,kamba,sufuria,kuku....any stuff.No free cash!.....So i guess they all think i am damn mean idiot sasa huwa wananiangalia kwa mbali and they can be overheard saying,"Kale kazee ni kashenzi sana"....but who cares?smile

This works for me for general public: wanashika jembe, panga, spade ama nyundo.

But the question is: how do you handle the close relas. The likes of wife bro who has been sent away from school, her brother who didn't secure campus room and has to rent from out but paid all money for meals and fees...?

Tell us guka d'oh!
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rock
#33 Posted : Thursday, January 10, 2013 11:00:40 AM
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xyzee wrote:
I have an uncle who would call every time with one story or the other. He would always ask for small amounts that in most cases you would not mind giving out but it became too much.

One day asked for 600, I gave him a 1000 as a soft loan which he gladly took promising to pay back. On the day he had promised to pay I called him and of cause he give me another date, this continued untill he started ignoring my calls. And with that my problem was solved.

Nice. Thats also the way to deal with pals who keep asking for cash and they believe that anything less than a k should not be paid back. Some relaz in shags are incorrigible,didnt go home during festive sn so went to shags after new yr and they still asked for belated sikukuu!
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Dalkymz
#34 Posted : Thursday, January 10, 2013 2:05:04 PM
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Impunity wrote:
Stop going home to greet paroz while dressed in a Sir Henry's suit white at the same time clutching a briefcase plus sharpshooter pair of shoes!

Dress like a hustler!



Laughing out loudly Laughing out loudly but true Applause
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McReggae
#35 Posted : Thursday, January 10, 2013 2:34:59 PM
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Don't overgive, however remain african!!!!
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Tebes
#36 Posted : Thursday, January 10, 2013 3:37:17 PM
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Njung'e wrote:
They work for it.....even if it means digging an area where i have no intentions of doing anything......as for neighbours and sumbuas,i buy stuff from them.You need cash?.Lete hata wheelbarrow mzee,jembe panga,kamba,sufuria,kuku....any stuff.No free cash!.....So i guess they all think i am damn mean idiot sasa huwa wananiangalia kwa mbali and they can be overheard saying,"Kale kazee ni kashenzi sana"....but who cares?smile


Laughing out loudly smile
Very true @Guka. People should work to earn money, and not depend on handouts. I often tell them to go sweat it out in the farm, weeding/slashing, tilling, pruning anything that will justify their getting a coin from me period! And no advance.
"Never regret, if its good, its wonderful. If its bad, its experience."
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MKWASI
#37 Posted : Thursday, January 10, 2013 6:30:03 PM
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Have a budget for CSR...., Give to the poor not rela's.
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washiku
#38 Posted : Monday, January 14, 2013 12:13:50 PM
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Impunity
#39 Posted : Monday, January 14, 2013 12:17:35 PM
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MKWASI wrote:
Have a budget for CSR...., Give to the poor not rela's.


Most of us have the entire relas being poor!
How do u go about that?
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sparkly
#40 Posted : Sunday, June 21, 2020 8:53:12 PM
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How to deal with relas requesting for cash during these Covid times?
Life is short. Live passionately.
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murchr
#41 Posted : Sunday, June 21, 2020 10:38:08 PM
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Kama unazo and they are really in need, wapee. You know them better than we do
"There are only two emotions in the market, hope & fear. The problem is you hope when you should fear & fear when you should hope: - Jesse Livermore
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sparkly
#42 Posted : Monday, June 22, 2020 9:57:44 AM
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murchr wrote:
Kama unazo and they are really in need, wapee. You know them better than we do


Sustenance is ok. But there is one who called demanding for a loan to start a business. She was bitter that whereas I have assisted other younger relas through school, I have never "helped" her. This is a married woman aged 37 who feels entitled to a loan from me.
Life is short. Live passionately.
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Swenani
#43 Posted : Monday, June 22, 2020 11:25:11 AM
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sparkly wrote:
murchr wrote:
Kama unazo and they are really in need, wapee. You know them better than we do


Sustenance is ok. But there is one who called demanding for a loan to start a business. She was bitter that whereas I have assisted other younger relas through school, I have never "helped" her. This is a married woman aged 37 who feels entitled to a loan from me.


If you do have, give out but don't squeeze yourself to give out.
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kaka2za
#44 Posted : Monday, June 22, 2020 12:22:37 PM
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sparkly wrote:
murchr wrote:
Kama unazo and they are really in need, wapee. You know them better than we do


Sustenance is ok. But there is one who called demanding for a loan to start a business. She was bitter that whereas I have assisted other younger relas through school, I have never "helped" her. This is a married woman aged 37 who feels entitled to a loan from me.



Key word is ' entitlement'
Truth forever on the scaffold
Wrong forever on the throne
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kayhara
#45 Posted : Monday, June 22, 2020 1:52:57 PM
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some will find me repairing a fence or the outside toilet, sit next to me telling me about his problems he can't even think of kujipa kazi helping me, so what I now do is give the some manual work that needs to be done like clearing the drive way to the house from the road, or prunning the trees and arranging the branches to dry for firewood, only then can i give money based on the current daily wage yani ki-siku
To Each His Own
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