One should not be too mean to the close relas when you meet them face to face, for the wamama's toss them aka loose 100 or 200 depending on your closeness and their importance in the family. You will be surprised at how much they appreciate.
For the men if they drink its easy, carry them to the local shopping centre and hook them up with those kali kali plastic bottled alcohol as you drink your favourite, they will not mind. For the hardcore drinkers, give them aka 2sok at around 11.00 am to go to the changaa den, when they get there, they will share with the usual crew, other crew members will ofcourse keep sharing their chang'aa they will ensure they don't leave the changaa den till around 4.00 am the next morning. If the men don't drink, then arrange some mbuzi choma. I really hate giving men money for whatever reason.
For those relas who call you asking for m-pesa, always promise to return their calls and then ignore them after that, they will eventually give up.
"The purpose of bureaucracy is to compensate for incompetence and lack of discipline." James Collins