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Kikuyu dowry rules
kenmac
#1 Posted : Sunday, December 30, 2012 6:29:42 PM
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I have searched the internet for comprehensive information regarding kikuyu dowry rules, and the web is getting smaller because the websites have just copy pasted from each other.

I need to know; Suppose a man did not pay dowry for his wife. In this scenario, it is against the customs and traditions for the man to receive dowry when one of his daughters is getting married. What does the culture say about a son marrying. Can the son give dowry to his fiance's family, or must the dad clear with the grandparents?

I need the help from wazua kikuyu elders.
......Ecclesiastes
simonkabz
#2 Posted : Sunday, December 30, 2012 7:10:33 PM
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The parents MUST clear off any pending "debts" for the sons n daughters to go ahead with theirs. My 2 rupees.
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ali
#3 Posted : Sunday, December 30, 2012 7:38:17 PM
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simonkabz wrote:
The parents MUST clear off any pending "debts" for the sons n daughters to go ahead with theirs. My 2 rupees.


but:
had the father visited? in my view, the process may have started...eg
had done
'kumenya mucii'
had been shown 'kiara kia guikia mahuti'
and had perhaps paid 'mwati na harika'
etc....and if they had done 'kuhoya uhiki' stuff.
if you had done all that but had not yet paid the dowry, in my view, the son can go ahead and pay dowry.
but if the father never even went once to report 'theft', then the no dowry can be paid or received from that house until the 'goat thieft' announces he has the goat, does all the processes and pay dowry, even if in part.
my 1 cent
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Njung'e
#4 Posted : Sunday, December 30, 2012 7:46:06 PM
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ali wrote:
simonkabz wrote:
The parents MUST clear off any pending "debts" for the sons n daughters to go ahead with theirs. My 2 rupees.


but:
had the father visited? in my view, the process may have started...eg
had done
'kumenya mucii'
had been shown 'kiara kia guikia mahuti'
and had perhaps paid 'mwati na harika'
etc....and if they had done 'kuhoya uhiki' stuff.
if you had done all that but had not yet paid the dowry, in my view, the son can go ahead and pay dowry.
but if the father never even went once to report 'theft', then the no dowry can be paid or received from that house until the 'goat thieft' announces he has the goat, does all the processes and pay dowry, even if in part.
my 1 cent


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Maybe you can add that dowry meant to be paid for your daughter can go directly to pay for your wife.
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murchr
#5 Posted : Sunday, December 30, 2012 7:55:46 PM
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^^^^^Thats the same with Kaos.
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kenmac
#6 Posted : Sunday, December 30, 2012 8:01:12 PM
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Thanks. Now this is getting interesting.

@guka ebu ongezea mawaidha.

Can one pay dowry for his mother then? Btw, this would mean paying twice and ain't funny.
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kenmac
#7 Posted : Sunday, December 30, 2012 8:19:53 PM
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@ali, thanks. please give details of what happens during stages you have mentioned.


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Mukiri
#8 Posted : Sunday, December 30, 2012 8:37:06 PM
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An Uncle recently paid dowry. His last born is finishing campus. The funny thing is we grandchildren were allowed to 'argue our cases' and got something from him. Probably accounted for as 'penalties'smile

Proverbs 19:21
limanika
#9 Posted : Sunday, December 30, 2012 9:02:01 PM
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I think it will also depend on the circumstances at play but strictly speaking, the son should settle his mother's dowry before his own
simonkabz
#10 Posted : Sunday, December 30, 2012 9:28:15 PM
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^^ Exactly. You are not allowed to receive any dowry for your daughter, if at all you haven't initiated the process for your wife. Your daughter's dowry goes straight to your parents, not you {coz you are considered a THIEF!}.

Again, it is said "uthoni duthiraga" ......I guess it means the process never ends/has no end, I stand to be corrected.

@ali, add "gutinerio kiande", "kuhanda ithigi" etc. Somebody enumerate them clearly.
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