Try 'controlled' Jacking off regulary and you will soon be in control of when your passangers disembark.

Baaaaaah!!!!! Can we forget about spirituality for 5 minutes? Its not about that. Its a boner issue, like when a beautiful woman passes by and one naturally follows. Its automatic, there isnt too much thinking involved.
Now the other thing, all the ladies posting here cannot begin to comprehend how much bruising a man's esteem/ego takes when the pine fails. REALLY. This is why you are ill qualified to advise men on this, despite suggestions to talk to the woman being valid ones. Telling the poster to talk to his woman will not solve his esteem problem.
This happens to most men at some point or the other, especially at the start when beginning to negotiate the treacherous course that is sex. When a dude is a virgin or new to this, he can barely hold in there for 5 seconds. Somehow one overcomes these problems by doing all sorts of things ...this is what the poster needs to know. The man's ego is the very top priority here, nefarious measures can be taken to protect it. Picture this, a hot new woman wants a guy but he cant take the plunge cause he is not sure things will work, losing the woman or earning ridicule. It is prison. Can you imagine how bad things get when you have an argument with the woman over something else and then she throws this issue in your face? Even muttering it to herself through clenched teeth is bad enough.

Why do you think Viagra was invented? It was a man's dogged determination to solve the ED problem without talking about it.

Now....@Foreman ...you asked for it straight ..none of the new age incense, lotions and blue lights crap ..or the talking psychology stuff either if I read you right .....its simple, how to stop disembarkation period.....and as men we owe you that. Jerk off sometimes, try regular exercise to boost your energy levels. Mea culpas after your esteem is healthy again and you can hold your own. Good luck.

Not only did I see,but got shocked as well.
It's mean not to take a woman's feelings into consideration but sawa tu.

I am illustrating for @essyk and other ladies sakes the reality of how men are on the ground ...take a sample, ask ladies,..ladies come forward ..how many men have disappointed you over the years? How many men of AlphaDoti's Utopian mould have you met?
You are an arm-chair idealist @AlphaDoti, perhaps you live in distant clouds far removed from reality ..or you reside under a rock ..you are not doing anyone any service by listing these platitudes. Coincidentally, guys happen to know them, just aren't motivated enough to enact. This is why new marriages are so rosy and wonderful. You are flogging a dead horse. What women need to hear is how common men are and how they think,..perhaps they can then understand better, hurt less when things don't go their way.