2012 wrote:kiash wrote:Seconded, most of the time guys marry to fulfill every girls dream to be dressed in that princess dress which she does for one day the guy can wear the suit even for years. It’s very rare to hear a man say my dream was to get married.
I think it depends. If you're looking for a temporary, short-term arrangement then don't do a wedding. But here's a word of advice which you can choose to take or ignore if you are looking for a life-time relationship. The wedding belongs to the girl, it's your way of showing her she's special and accepting her infront of the world. It is her show, it's her day to show the world that she is loved. I see no reason why you should deny the girl you love a day to be a princess. Don't look at it from the mindset of a man. I can assure you that if you never do a proper wedding you will never hear the end of it.
I see nothing wrong with trying to fulfill the girl's dreams, it will earn you many points for the future and believe me you will need to redeem them for the many mess-ups you'll have.
Really? Seriously? Are you saying all those Hollywood guys don't know how to "redeem their points for a few mess ups"?
This is too much Tv [soap operas] at play here.
Since i was a small boy, i have always hated weddings. The stress that comes with them is not worth any love,nada.
Why spend a good sum of money on a single event while you can spread that over some holidays together with this love,where you are going to enjoy the two of you?Ain't it selfish on the woman part to want "her" day? When is the man's day anyway?
So by doing a wedding gives the guy licence to mess up? Does love allow messing up?
Can we then say doing a wedding is just some advance payment to the chick,for future shit? My,what love!
I'm anti-show biz and everything that comes close to it.
If i were to narrate stories of those who've tied the knot for the last 5 years but are not "redeeming" any points, it would need a book.
One of the guys was forced to have a wedding, which i was forced to attend. After the honeymoon, the wife confronted the huzie with a demand. She wanted to go back to her parents for sometime to "get ready for marriage".
Mine could be isolated cases, but trust you me, those who make it a pre-condition to have a wedding and a lavish one at that, have isolated thinking.
But then again, what do i know?