In the times we are living countercheck your pastor…because you shall know them by their fruits
The spiritual leader can be female or male either a Sunday School teacher, pastor in some churches, elder/deacon/board member, women’s leader, etc.
I urge husbands and Fathers to be going to church to know where their spouse and childrean go and get to know who and how your family is being is being pastored. Its is your resposibility to lead your family to church and protect your family from false church doctrines/pastors
The false bully Pastor traits are;:
•is a *convincing,* *practised liar* and when called to account,will make up anything spontaneously to fit their needs at that moment
•has a *Jekyll and Hyde nature* – is vile, vicious and vindictive in private, but innocent and charming in front of witnesses;no-one can (or wants to) believe this individual has a vindictive
nature – only the current target of the serial bully’s aggression sees both sides; whilst the Jekyll side is described as “charming”
and convincing enough to deceive personnel, management and a tribunal, the Hyde side is frequently described as “evil”; Hyde is
the real person, Jekyll is an act
•excels at *deception* and should never be underestimated in their capacity to deceive
in a relationship, is unable to hold a relationship most of them have separated, divorced or the spouse is not part emotionally or physically part of that church..
•uses excessive *charm* and is always plausible and convincing when peers, superiors or others are present (charm can be used to deceive as well as to cover for lack of empathy)
•is *glib, shallow and superficial* with plenty of fine words and lots of form – but there’s no substance
•relies on *mimicry, repetition* and regurgitation* to convince
others that he or she is both a “normal” human being and a tough dynamic manager, as in extolling the virtues of the latest
management fads and pouring forth the accompanying jargon
•is unusually skilled in *being able to anticipate what people want to hear* and then saying it plausibly
•*cannot be trusted or relied upon*
•*fails to fulfil commitments*
•is *emotionally retarded* displays the emotional age of a five-year-old
•is *emotionally immature* and *emotionally untrustworthy*
•exhibits *unusual and inappropriate attitudes to sexual matters,sexual behaviour and bodily functions*; underneath the charming
exterior there are often suspicions or hints of sex discrimination and sexual harassment, perhaps also sexual dysfunction, sexual inadequacy, sexual perversion, sexual violence or sexual abuse
•is *self-opinionated* and displays *arrogance*, *audacity, a
superior sense of entitlement* and sense of *invulnerability* and
*untouchability*
•is a *control freak* and has a *compulsive need to control*
•displays a *compulsive need to criticise* whilst simultaneously *refusing to value*, praise and acknowledge others, their
achievements, or their existence
•*shows a lack of joined-up thinking* with conversation that
doesn’t flow and arguments that don’t hold water
•is *highly manipulative*, especially of people’s perceptions and emotions (eg guilt)
•*poisons peoples’ minds* by manipulating their perceptions
•is *spiritually dead* although may loudly profess some religious
belief or affiliation
•is *mean-spirited*, *officious*, and often *unbelievably petty*
•is *mean, stingy*, and *financially untrustworthy*
•is *greedy, selfish, *a *parasite *and an *emotional vampire*
•is *always a taker *and *never a giver* [Note from Danni: On this one I would say, never a giver unless there is a hidden motive of manipulation to gain.]
•is convinced of their *superiority* and has an *overbearing belief in their qualities of leadership* but cannot distinguish between
leadership (maturity, decisiveness, assertiveness, co-operation,
trust, integrity) and bullying (immaturity, impulsiveness,
aggression, manipulation, distrust, deceitfulness)
•often *fraudulently claims* qualifications, experience, titles,entitlements or affiliations which are ambiguous, misleading, or
bogus
•sometimes *displays a seemingly limitless demonic energy*especially when engaged in attention-seeking activities or evasion
of accountability and is often a *committeeaholic* or apparent
*workaholic*
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